I have posted about this before, a while ago. My dd has showsn various ASD traits for years. My dss aged 19 has AS, and I'm pretty sure my BIL has undiagnosed AS. Anyway, dd, when she was little - always preferred to be with adults, v poor eye contact, poor social skills.
Fast forward to school - she was always quiet, but at the top of her class, classed as G&T at reading, maths and sport. But outside school, poor social skills, no imagination (got an ELC princess palace for Xmas when she was 3/4 - didn't play with it - asked her why not - 'because I don't know how to'. She also has obsessions with odd things.
She's now 9 and her social skills are still poor. She often gets the wrong end of the stick in conversations - e.g. the other day I dropped ds at his class at school and the TA said that they'd get out to play in the snow, but if it carried on snowing, school may shut early, at 2.30. DD was there. She asked me afterwards, 'why would we be getting out to play at 2.30?' She had totally missed the bit about getting home early etc even though she had been standing there listening too. She either seems to be in her own world or ditsy a lot of the time, or things just don't sink in. She doesn't ask questions or tell me things like other children do - her friends are full of chat and what they'e been up to; dd hardly has anything to say. It makes me really sad.
I have read that girls are better than boys at pretending they don't have AS as they copy other people and know what they should do, but dd just isn't as 'on the ball' as other children her age. It's hard to explain. If I ask her to tidy her room, she can't. People with ASD often have difficulties with practical planning - she can't work out where to put things, in what order, so she has piles of books etc everywhere. I have to stay there and tell her what to do, and put things in piles for her and say where they should go.
Walked her to school today and she just stood there near her best friend and didn't go to say hello or anything till I asked if she was going to. It's odd. I took her to the GP about 6 months ago for an assessment but the GP was worse than useless and only had a very rigid idea of what ASD can look like.
I've done the online test with her and she scores quite highly but not enough to be obviously asd - can't remember her actual score.
She's still doing well at school - she has a good memory and concentrates well, and has a small group of friends - but I'm worried about how she will settle in to middle school next year. Is there anywhere else I can refer her to? A psychologist?
The GP thinks I'm being an over-concerned mum, but I KNOW there is something different about her. If she has ASD then I want to be able to help her. Sorry this is so long, but if anyone can suggest anything, I'd be grateful.
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At a loss re my dd age 9 - ASD traits, but GP thinks she's OK
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CocktailQueen · 24/01/2013 09:45
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