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How can I help my friend?

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Icanonlytry · 02/12/2011 14:25

Hi,
My friend had her first baby on Tuesday at 36 weeks, bit of a shock as there were no signs he was going to come early and she had a tough time of it, had to be cut and have forceps, baby is in SCBU as his lungs are underdeveloped.
Just wanted some opinions of what I should do from someone who has been there.
I have text her to offer support of any kind, I don't feel a close enough friend to just turn up and help but not sure she is the type to ask for help if she did need it if you know what I mean? I had Dc2 6 months ago so I know how hard it is, both physically and emotionally to have a new baby and I imagine this is so much worse when the baby is in SCBU.
Should I just keep letting her know I am here if she needs me or should I be doing something more, dont want to overface her if she just needs to be alone with her husband to look after their baby boy.
Thank you.

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purplehonesty · 02/12/2011 17:55

Why don't you pop over with a couple of homemade meals so that he doesn't have to c

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purplehonesty · 02/12/2011 17:57

Sorry. Why don't you pop over with a couple of homemade meals so that she doesn't have to cook. Then while you are there you could say if she wants anything else done just to ask. I loved it when people brought me food when I was just out of hospital!!

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Icanonlytry · 04/12/2011 10:18

Thanks for your reply.. I did think of that but she said they have either been going to her mums for something to eat or just grabbing something on the way home. Her dh is going back to work in a few days so we have arranged to meet at the hospital so we can have a coffee and a chat without her being too far away from baby. Think it is worrying her being at the hospital on her own .