Anyone 'in the know' about antenatal depressin who could come and have a chat please?
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Because I don't know what's going on! I am so happy about this pregnancy and looking forward to the new baby but at the same time I feel so bloody awful. It's been a fairly uneventful pregnancy so far (am 23 weeks) apart from a lot of acid reflux which appears to be easing a little now.
I feel really dulled, iyswim. A lot of the time I feel like I'm not even here, my brain feels too slow and I can't think. I keep on crying for a reason, for no reason, now...
I've completely lost my appetite and don't feel like I want/enjoy any foods. Seeing as I'm 4 stone overweight I feel that's a noteworthy event! I'm tired all the time and am too snappy with DD, who is a real sweetie and deserves better than me like this
BUT, I don't know if I just feel like this because of life atm. It's hard work being pregnant as well as looking after a toddler and I don't sleep enough as I should. I could be crying because of hormones. I'm still happy and laughing some of the time and I'm motivated enough to keep the house fairly tidy and clean most days and to keep up my hobbies. Plus my bloody mother is trying to worm her way back into my life and she is fairly emotionally abusive imo so that is stressing me out.
I'm going to stop there because frankly I can't really see the screen anymore and if anyone's got this far it's an achievement in itself.
Oh and any spacing issues are because DP has finally fixed my space bar and it is overreacting to every knock <<rolls eyes>>
Sorry have been quiet, very busy today. Not feeling too bad just now and wondering whether I either imagined or exaggerated it
not sure. Thanks for all the posts and glad you are now feeling better minnie
I just wanted to echo Jasmeen... I was off anti-d's for nearly three years, fell pregnant and was hit with a ton of bricks at about 16 weeks (am 32 now). Went to see GP (as was not due to see MW) who made a super-speedy referral to a specialist midwife who in turn referred me to a ante-natal psych.
I am now back on meds, having therapy treatment and slowly getting there. The joined up nature of the diagnosis meant that I was able to look at all the options including considering a simple course of fairly laid back counselling with the specialist midwife.
As it turned out I needed a more "belt and braces" approach but I think that it's worth noting that everyone was really keen to work in conjunction with me to find out exactly what was needed and then put it in place. No one forced tablets down my throat or pushed me into interventions I wasn't happy with.
It's been a frightening few months but my improvement trajectory is really good now and am looking forward to christmas and the subsequent birth.
A bit of a ramble I know but I just wanted you to know that there are choices out there for you.....
Oh yes I saw some lovely ones in there the other day when I went in to get some giant knickers
Am resisting buying one but thinking about it logically it might be a good idea as the weather gets worse...
Hope today is a good day for you and that you managed to get through to the doctors
I got one from Primark in the end, it'll keep me warm enough. I am having the same problem with my coat too so at least I'llbe warm now!
I'm ok I think, but ready for an early night tonight! Glad you're better today.
Ohh if you have a local Peacocks, they have some fab cardigans in at the moment that are brilliant to use as maternity ones
I bought one a few weeks ago as my coat would no longer do up
I hope you had a nice day, and found some time to rest!!
I'm okay, thanks. Things are at least quiet here today. DP is going out on the town with his friends - which is very rare, he's usually incredably antisocial
- but has promised he will behave himself in case I go into labour. I am hideously jealous
Hi, I'm not too bad just now, although every time I sit down my eyes start drooping. Have got a fair bit done, dinner is cooking and the house is nice and tidy so DD and I are having a wee snuggle. Got to go and meet DP at work in an hour and going to buy myself a cardigan so I hope this rain goes off. How are you today?
Thanks MMM, I am trying to get out as much as possible. A cleaner isn't an option atm but ~I'm gladtobe a bit busy.
Hiya, just wondered how you were doing today?
You better phone the doctor missy or one of us will be doing it for you
Just take it easy today if you can, relax a little and try not to stress - a lot easier said than done, I know. x
Baby steps is the best advice I can give you and get out to the park, toddler groups etc as much as possible.
If you can find a spare £30 a week for a cleaner too I found that money well spent.
Thanks LuckyC, that's a lovely post, it helps to know others have experienced the same thing. I have <whispers> put off phoning the gp this morning, but will definitely do it tomorrow. I don't feel too awful today but I'm quite tired. Have got some housework done though and got DD's application for nursery as she starts in September <<scared>> so not too bad so far.
CharChar just dropping in to say hi and reassure you that you are not alone in this; I have found loads of people on MN in a similar situation. A quarter of people experience serious depression at some time in their lives. It's really common and even more common in pregnancy as doctors are now working out because of hormonal changes, and because it's so bloody knackering looking after toddler and being pregnant!
I hope you have spoken to your GP? Also, don't let them brush you off - I have found before that when I am feeling depressed, with such low energy and low self-esteem, it sometimes can feel like the doctor is not believing you or that they don't want to help. So even if you feel like that, remember you know best and you should insist. Print off this thread and read it to them if needs be.
Good luck and let us know how you get on. And remember one day this will be over and behind you.
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