Unsupportive partner - getting more annoyed as the days go on!

[StarlightIntheNight]

Pregnant with the third dc and I generally find dh not supportive. He does not offer to help with anything so I can rest. On holiday, he has left me with the kids for 3 hours so he can catch up with a buddy, then wonders why I am grumpy when he returns....its not his first time meeting up w his friends during holiday and I would not mind if he actually gave me some time to enjoy or rest! Happy if he goes for 3 hours, if he then takes the kids for 3 hours so I can take a nap and have me time. ARGH!!! I just feel like its so unfair he expects me to watch the kids all day long, when its supposed to be a holiday and he never helps. He either says he is working and then when he does have free time he goes off to meet up with friends. I snapped at him when he said the kids should be playing something instead of watching a movie (this is after I have been watching them, playing with them, trying to get them to do things outside all day long. By 6pm I have had enough. I snapped either he play with them or they need to watch a movie because I am TIRED!!

Okay, sorry for the rant....but just needed to complain and off load. Does anyone else find their partners are generally clueless when they are pregnant? He acts as if being pregnant is nothing. It is really pissing me off. He even wanted me to help carry up a wardrobe up 5 flights of stairs! I refused and said get a friend to help. My mum was there and even thought he was crazy to suggest that a pregnant women help lift the heavy wardrobe up 5 flights of stairs!

Sounds the spit of my fiancée's ex husband. One lazy selfish fker!

As a man, I hate I can't do more for her (admittedly, we're both in our 50s and her child is 30 and married)... She has some type of throat cancer and Rhumatoid Arthritis (arthritis with an autoimmune disorder). However, I have a crumbling spine and neck, hand, knee, hip, foot osteoarthritis, along with other health issues.

I might have grown up through the children's homes, but the old adage, "a happy wife, is a happy life", has always stuck with me, and I do what I can to help. I can only cook if she is home, as I have a sleep disorder, and will fall asleep at the drop of a hat whilst not being able to sleep normally, which is not good, unless ya like burnt food! If I do the cooking while she is home, she is able to rescue it if I end up sleeping... Oops!

I do think he could do more, esp if you say he's already "caught up" with this friend. ... Next time, tell him... You can go catch.up but ya got to take the kids.

My ex made a rod for her back, cos she said, right at the beginning of the relationship, she insisted on doing EVERYTHING. I mean EVERYTHING and would let him lift a finger. However, after the birth of their DD, she never put her foot down.

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I am tho (having written all this) getting deja vu about this post? Is this a repeated post?

Sounds like neither of you want another child?

Is this new behaviour OP or has he been like this for a while?

And what PP said upthread about not wanting another child?