OK so as those on the HG thread may remember I had v. severe HG. Sick immediately, hospitalised for the first time at only 5 weeks, unable to get out of bed at all for four or five months and although it improved after that I was on medication and still throwing up the whole way through. I did not have a single nausea-free moment at any point. I also had problems with nausea and occasional vomiting for several months after giving birth. In addition I had v. severe SPD and was on crutches from about six months and in a wheelchair at the end. Unfortunately I have to be prepared for both of these conditions to recur (and the SPD is likely to be a bit worse I think).
So we are gearing up for a second baby and this is what we've thought of so far. Any other suggestions?
- work (HoD and key colleague) are aware that I might be off for the entire nine months; my work load for the summer and autumn has been designed to be easily reallocated, and I'm on leave in the spring anyway. I've also told my PhD students so that we can plan their work and identify back-up supervision in advance.
- I am currently 'clearing the decks' and finishing a couple of big projects. I was so stressed about work last time so this time I am going to have v. low expectations and try to assume that I will achieve nothing the entire pregnancy - anything will be a bonus.
- I have had a preliminary discussion with the GP and they have agreed to prescribe everything in advance (before pregnancy because I was so ill so quickly). But I was on max dose of four anti-emetics by 7 weeks last time and it only made a small difference so realistically I am not expecting a major improvement.
- we will order food replacement drinks (Ensure) as last time I just kept on going back into hospital until they prescribed those
- we are planning to get a lot more help at home: either switching to a full-time nanny for DS (so no drop offs/collections etc) or a mother's help who will do all the fetching and carrying and then some housekeeping during the day. We already have a cleaner. We want DH to be able to focus on emotional support for both me and DS rather than housekeeping stuff.
- DH is five months into two years of research leave so good timing from that point of view
- MIL lives abroad but has bought a flat round the corner from us so she can come regularly, and my parents could e.g. use it when they are not there
Are we missing anything? Any top tips from other HG veterans? We have some savings and we are really prepared to throw money at this if it will help all three of us to get through this a bit less traumatised than DH and (especially) I was by the last time!