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2nd pregnancy but worried not felt baby yet

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LilBean13 · 11/02/2013 14:41

Hi all, am new on here & although this is my 2nd pregnancy, I don't think that I've felt this baby move yet & am 19 weeks today!
Unfortunately I lost my beautiful daughter Mia in July last year due to her being born sleeping. As you can imagine I'm feeling very anxious throughout this pregnancy and & cannot help but be worried.
Although so far everything has been fine & I've only got to wait til Thurs for my next scan, understandably I'm worried :-(
I don't suppose there is anyone out there that has gone through this feeling?? Even though i have a great partner, friends & family network around me, i could really do with some advice from someone (anyone) impartial to my situation.
Thanks xx

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NoMoreMarbles · 11/02/2013 14:48

Hi

sorry you are feeling so worried. It is more than understandable given what you have been through so sorry for your loss

I felt my DD moving at around the 19-20 week mark so it is not uncommon to feel movements later. have you spoken to your midwife about how worried you have been?

there are sadly alot of posters who have been through similar to you so more may be along shortly to help

Doretaball · 11/02/2013 14:54

Hi. I didn't feel my second baby move for ages, can't remember exactly when but it was def after my 20 week scan.

Can you get a GP appointment or a midwife appointment in the next day or so so they can reassure you? I went to GP when I was worried at about this time and they were happy to have a quick listen.

LilBean13 · 11/02/2013 14:59

Thanks x

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LilBean13 · 11/02/2013 15:01

Maybe i am being a little over concerned given the circumstances, ineviatable I guess!! Thanks for replies so far. Maybe I will just wait til Thurs & have fingers crossed that everything is ok. Wish me luck x

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3rdtimelucky73 · 11/02/2013 15:41

Hi Lilbean,

My daughter was born sleeping too in 2005 and am currently 26+6 with DS.

Everyone feels movement at different times, I didn't feel anything definite until after 20 weeks scan I feel.

With regards to worrying, I'm not sure I can offer too much reassurance. Personally I know I am very anxious, but my midwife & consultant are both supportive and I have extra appointments and scans to be safe and also for reassurance.

If you are worried and don't feel like you can wait - you could ask for a MW appointment so that she can hear the heartbeat, even if you can't get a scan.

Big hug from me x

3rdtimelucky73 · 11/02/2013 15:43

Just noticed scan is Thursday so you may not get a MW appt before then. Can only suggest talking to supportive family & friends in the meantime (and MNers....) x

LilBean13 · 12/02/2013 17:03

Thank u for for ur comments 3rdtimelucky73, means alot. Makes me a little reassured that can still feel movement after 20 wks. 1 more day 2 go so not long 2 wait. Will let u know xxx

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leannac · 12/02/2013 17:07

I didn't feel anything with my second baby until 21 weeks & even that was really faint. I had no proper discernible kicks until about 26 weeks which was terrifying but bubba hasn't stopped kicking since then (37 wks). I'm sure you are ok but if you are upset & anxious about it then I'm sure midwives would have a listen in for you. Good luck xx

Mixxy · 12/02/2013 17:20

Sorry to hear about your daughter lilbean .

Could it be possible that you have an anterior placenta? That can keep things quiet down there for a while longer than most.

Let us know how the 20 week scan goes, yes?

LilBean13 · 13/02/2013 11:29

Thank u 2 everyone that has replied, really appreciate it. I will def b bk 2 let u know how I get on 2mrw...... after all by this time i will know xxx

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amyboo · 13/02/2013 12:57

Hi lilbean. I'm currently 30+4 with DS3. DS2 was stillborn at 36 weeks on 22 April after I failed to notice he hadn't moved for a fewdays . With this pregnancy I've frequently panicked about movement, and I definitely didn't feel any precise movement till around 20 weeks. Since then he's kindly been fairly active, but it still doesn't stop the panic when he has a quiet day... I hope the scan goes OK - keeping everything crossed for you. Pregnancy after stillbirth is a huge mental challenge, and I don't think it gets much easier the further on you get sadly....

3rdtimelucky73 · 13/02/2013 15:16

Amyboo is right, pregnacy after a stillborn is mentally and emotionally tough.

Also if you have an anterior placenta, movements will be dulled.

Will be thinking of you tomorrow and waiting for your news x

father2be · 14/02/2013 09:03

We had a miscarriage with our first child and you have legitimate reasoning to be worried. About a third of pregnancies end in miscarriage and it's a sad fact. My wife and I will probably try again within the next six months, we want to give it time so there is no disappointment.

SeptMummy · 14/02/2013 09:35

I haven't been feeling much for the last few weeks with DC2 which really worries me as I'm 21/22Wks, as had a few friends in a similar situation to you, and with DS1 I felt lots from the moment I first felt him at 17/18wks! I rang the MW this week and they didn't seem concerned as sometimes you don't feel proper movements until week 25/26...
I really hope all is well today and will be thinking of you at your scan.

Catchingmockingbirds · 14/02/2013 09:40

fathertobe OP didn't have a miscarriage, she had a stillborn.

Thinking of you today OP xxx

LilBean13 · 14/02/2013 20:13

Hi all
Well we had our 2nd scan this morning & pleased 2 say, all appears fine. The only thing they mentioned was that my placenta is lying low but said nothing 2 worry about as this does happen & there is still plenty of time 4 it 2 move which apparently in 99% of cases it does so fingers crossed x
Also we are expecting another little girl..... had a feeling that she was another girl
We now will have another scan at 28 weeks & again at 34 which is reassuring.
Thanx again 4 all comments. It really does help knowing that others have been in similar situations & or just advice being given, I really do appreciate it xxxx

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Catchingmockingbirds · 14/02/2013 23:24

That's fantastic OP, congrats on a new little girl :o

3rdtimelucky73 · 15/02/2013 01:13

Great news LilBean, congratulations x

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