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'I was up a step ladder painting the week before x was born', ' I worked right up to my due date!'(85 Posts)
Well good for you but I'm shattered and can't seem to manage changing the bed! Anyone else feel like this at 17 weeks?
I've not been at work since 16 weeks pregnant due to SPD and bleeding I'm 36 weeks now and really struggled this pregnancy .
Oh no I really didn't mean for this to sound bitchy, I hoped it would be obvious that I'm jealous and in awe of women who work late in their pregnancies. Since I started this post I've been put under consultant care because of placenta prevea:-( mw has advised me to take it easy and be prepared for c section so I am rethinking my plan to work to 39 weeks. Although I do have much more energy at 22weeks I am finding work really tough and don't want to risk any bleeding.
Anyway thanks for talk the posts, as always puts just good to hear other folks' experiences :-)
I've requested leave at 37 weeks but now I'm thinking of changing that to 33 weeks. I'm just worried I might regret it as I may get bored, but I'm so tired, I feel it's unfair to do half hearted work (I work mainly from home). Any advice folks?
The worst pains for me was my ribcage. It felt like it was going to be sbapped apart, and it still hasnt gone back to where it was. I used to fantasise all day about fetting in and taking off.my bra
From about 25 weeks my working day involved slacking off 15mins early so I could beat the traffic and be home for 4.15 (when on an early shift) where id get straight into bed and sleep til dh got in at 5.30. Id be up for tea and a bath and then straight back to bed til morning. I was so so tired. THankfully I have a desk job and 15min commute, however did shift work so often finish at 11pm and sometimes back at my desk for 7.30am.
I worled til 38wks but that was due to having no annual leave left and the worst thing was training my replacement. She was with me from 32 weeks and I had to be so so switched on and with it on days when I just felt barely able to clear my intray.
Next time.im taking alllllll of.my.AL in the six weeks before ML starts at 38wks. Not that im.og or even ttc I just feel v.strongly!
I worked right up until the birth and was back again within days of giving birth. Why? I am self employed, and had no choice!
Just seen this thread again and it made me smile as I am 17 weeks now and tried to change the bed last night. I did so much huffing and moaning over it and DH was doing most of it!
I carried a big rug from ikea all the way home on public transport when i was 37 weeks....not that i wanted too!
But i didnt have a car and i didnt want to pay for a cab.
The next day i went to hospital for reduced movment and was immeadiately admitted and induced two days later.
Relax put your feet and dont listen to any one
I worked up to my due date with my second and third because I work for myself and needed the money. It was a fucking horrendous nightmare, lots of sweat and braxton hicks.
I remember I had to drive up to Manchester to meet a customer, about a 4 hour journey. I felt drowsy, so pulled into the Motorway Services to have a little nap. I woke up 4 hours later
I'm 28 weeks+ and there have probably been about six or seven days this while pregnancy when I have actually had energy. And yes, changing bed sheets seems like doing the 1000m in the Olympics at the moment. I do the pillowcases and DH does the duvet covers
I'm working till due date if poss this time ( number 2, now 22 w). I'm an academic and spend all day at the computer, wih a comfy back-supporting chair, taking breaks when I want. As soon as DS goes to bed at 7pm I lie in te sofa.
When I stop work I'll have to look after him full time which is far more physically demanding!
Is it possible to develop a "bump" after only 5 wks and 5 days? My stomach is bloated (as are boobs) but my weight is the same. Obviously I know the baby is somewhere between sesame seed and apple pip but does everything inside swell up or do you retain water on your tummy in preparation? My diet hasnt really changed except no booze and I wasnt drinking much anyway.
Pfft, I didn't get to either of my due dates. One DS arrived 3 weeks early, the other 2.
Do what's right for you dearheart, and to fuck with what other people do.
I'm 37 weeks, I go on maternity leave on Friday, and I really, really wish I'd arranged to start it earlier.
This is DC2, DS1 was born at 34 weeks when I was still fortunate enough to be feeling pretty great, so I figured how much of a difference could 4 weeks make?
What a fecking idiot.
I'm knackered, by the end of the day my feet and ankles are puffy, my lower back hurts, my hips hurt and everything pisses me off.
I'm just glad I only work part time, so today will be spent on the sofa while DS is at school, watching Borgen and eating toast.
Oh, and this time spd has found me! So when I'm not at work or ferrying the little ones to wherever they need to be or whatever they want to do, I'm either in bed or on the sofa! Xx
With ds I was working (bar work) and training (karate) untill 39.2, ds was born 39.5, but this was sue to the fact his pregnancy was a breeze and I was completely fine! No weight gain whatsoever just looked like I had a football up my top!....yep, I even wanna kick myself for that one, but if it makes it any better, karmas a bitch!.....
With dd I ballooned straight from the off, stopped weighing myself at 28 weeks after I had put on 6stone, I was a very careful eater, just someone had it in for me I think! And I stopped work at 29 weeks, but I did have 4 weeks holiday and a leu week to take, and that was less physical work!(kitchen)
This time, I'm 16 weeks, not yet put on any weight despite stopping smoking, but I do look like someone has Inflated a beach ball inside my belly! Am back on the bar (karate went out the window a long time ago!) so will just have to wait and see!
But I totally agree, when you get the 'I did this and managed that while juggling this that the other and had a sweeping brush up my arse' speech it's totally acceptable to kick said 'lovely person' in the shin what pretending to sneeze!
I feel exhausted and am 17 weeks too. I did, however, manage to be up some scaffolding painting a 'feature wall' four days before DS was born Goodness knows why DH thought it was a good idea to send me up there...
Just tell them to faff off. I worked up to my due date with ds because I didn't have much choice financially. I finished early with dd to go on holiday with dh and ds before dd came along as our situation had changed.
Incidentally, my mum finished work 5 weeks before I was due for a rest. She was in labour with me the next day.
loops I'm so sorry
"When you have your second, you do not have any choice at all. You simply have to be energetic and very physical, especially if they are a very highly energetic two year old boy! I think this can actually help with the tiredness because you have no chance of dwelling on it."
This was not my experience - my first pg I had lots of energy and taught in a primary classroom happily until 37 weeks. My second pg, with a 1 year old to look after was much more exhausting, with every step painful until ten days before my due date when miraculously the baby stopped being back to back and I was able to move without pain. I was still knackered though! It was incredibly hard.
My third pg, which sadly ended in miscarriage at three months, was unbelievable in terms of how knackered and ill I felt. Horrendous. I was back at work and dealing with an inspection too...
I was knackered a lot but it gradually got better and I was one of the annoying ones who was walking 5+ miles up until the day DD arrived (labour started when I was inconveniently in the middle of London having dinner - born in Chichester) and was on stage at my DH band's gig the week before.
That said I finished work at 36ish weeks. I had carpal tunnel in both hands and a very demanding boss (I'm a PA) - I wouldn't have hacked working to the end.
It also depends a lot on your job. When had DD had a job that demanded lifting, physical work, and standing up from 9am-7pm with a break if I was lucky... with a journey of an hour and a half on bus, metro and walking for 30+ minutes...this following on from the pg before which ended in a stillbirth. I got to 25 weeks and was really ill....bad joint pain, sickness, anaemia, migraines from hell... struggled back as didn't get sick pay, off again, got worse
30 weeks and was finally signed off, developed pg diabetes. DD arrived at 31. Think your body can only take so much. If employers unwilling to adapt job or help, makes it even worse...
I worked as a primary teacher up to 38 weeks with DS. I am clearly a mentalist, and at nearly 38 weeks with DC2 I have absolutely no clue how I managed it. That said I did fall asleep while listening to a poor child reading at 37 weeks so I should have clocked then that I wasn't really coping! I didn't teach in my last week, just tutored, as I couldn't stand up any more. I am still surprised I managed to do that though, I seem to be so much more tired this time round - perhaps due to having a toddler to look after. Pregnancy has been easy I'm just so heavy and big that getting around is a struggle.
I work from home now, very part time, so I could technically be working on my due date. It's all computer work though so it's not taxing, although my brain isn't exactly working at lightning speed at the moment so it is tough going. MW keeps asking me if I've finished work yet and looks horrified when I say no, I don't think she really gets how my job works.
First pg I left work at 13weeks - yes 13 and went self employed until about 34weeks which worked out very well as I had a lot of time to enjoy however had we moved house as I had wanted too it would have been time well spent.
This pg has been hell, just constant nausea, exhaustion, I sit at my desk 80% of the time rather than 50/50 on site, I can barely think and I'm crazily anticipating working until 38weeks (ELCS scheduled for mid June). That said I am beginning to feel better but at 17weeks I was still being sick and fainting if I went without food for longer than an hour - can only assume this baby will be a big one!
Loops so sorry to hear that.
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