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'I was up a step ladder painting the week before x was born', ' I worked right up to my due date!'(85 Posts)
Well good for you but I'm shattered and can't seem to manage changing the bed! Anyone else feel like this at 17 weeks?
17 weeks with number 2 and exhausted. Exhausted.
Stupid horrible delusional work. Scares with baby at scans (now hopefully resolved but am frightened every time I go to midwife.) And now these horrible headaches.
Can barely move.
I am not going to have another, and I so wanted to have a good experience of pregnancy. Ha.
And obviously feeling v sorry for self!
I worked to 34 weeks with DS, whilst my job is office based and not physical itself, I have a 90min commute and that was too much, I could easily have stopped at 30wks. I did immediately feel physically better when I stopped commuting and could have been one of those women up a ladder decorating on my due date - I swam for an hour a couple of times each week on mat leave, and was planning to go out for my last one when I concluded those cramps were probably contractions...
This time round I'm at 22 weeks and, despite being part time, could happily stop now: another one with scares at scans and I'll have a whole load of fortnightly appts on my working days. I had hoped to get to 36wks as being at home with a toddler isn't exactly restful, but who knows how long this one will stay in.
Wow thank you for all of the responses. I think I knew this would touch a nerve so to speak. Everyone has an opinion on all aspects of pregnancy don't they, sometimes I feel guilty for moaning and a bit uncomfortable at the thought of stopping work...although I don't see an alternative. Anyway, to all of you who have said every pregnancies different, can we agree to spread that around!? Don't get me started on comments on the .size of my bump
Can't manage changing the bed? I can't even get up the stairs without needing to go and have a lie down. Thankfully my bedroom is off the living room. So today I have been extremely active. I got up, I got dressed, I made the bed, I put a load of washing on, I sat on the sofa watching TV and MNing for the rest of the day while husband waited on me and even that feels like too much effort.
I was up a step ladder painting the week before DS was born but that was only because DH had painted the top half of the walls in DS's room whilst I'd done the bottom and he'd (in my very hormonal opinion) cocked it up. So I was up a step ladder trying to balance a very enormous bump and being only 5ft 1 and trying to reach a corner on a eight foot high ceiling . Not one of my finest moments given I'd sprained my ankle two months earlier, had awful carpal tunnel in both hands and massive swelling in my ankles. Later that day at my checkup I wa diagnosed with pre-eclampsia and DS was born three days later and two weeks early by emcs. this meant i only got just over a week of my mat leave instead of the planned three. Still not told anyone that I was daft enough to be up a step ladder and would not recommend it to anyone in the latter stages of pregnancy !
I my colleague was like this, was were working outside for a whole day & she didn't mention her contractions has started until news of a baby came the next day!
She then reappeared at work part-time after two weeks (we're in an odd profession and it was a busy time and she felt -and was- under pressure to do so). She has made juggling the baby & work look an absolute doddle since then, thanks in the most part to her partner who earns less & works v flexibly. I am quite sure it has not been a doddle, but my (largely male & childless) colleagues now believe it to be, which is a shame for me as I'm expecting my second (had a very different job with normal mat leave for my first) but my partner works away in the week and we have no other family nearby so I will not be performing any supermum acts any time soon!
Sorry, that was me.
But I felt rotten at 17 weeks.
In the last couple of weeks I had a bad attack of nesting and did all sorts of mental things, but I did feel fine.
With ds1 I cycled for miles every day, did pregnancy yoga, went swimming... I was fit and healthy. I'm now 17 weeks pregnant with dc2 and have sent most of it lying like slug on the sofa. There is literally no way I could hold down a job, I can't even stand up for more than half an hour. Ms, Chronic pelvic girdle pain and a series of nasty colds (3 and counting) and now tonsillitis have totally done me in.
I am so envious a women who can enjoy their pregnancies, this is my last one and I'm just spending every day hoping that this constant illness and lack of activity aren't going to harm the baby.
I'm still at work at 38 but to be honest have bags and bags more energy than I did at 17 weeks when I felt dog rough! I'm doing it mainly for financial reasons but if you don't need to, then don't! There's no medal for it and I'm sure you'd be happier (therefore baby would be happier) if you were nice and chilled before the birth. If money matters were different, I would have loved to have stopped at about 36 weeks.
PS- touch wood it gets better for you, I really did just go to bed at the same time as dc1 (that's about 8 o'clock) at that stage and was still feeling exhausted/ lousy.
Sometimes if you work in the kind of job where you are expected to keep going, or you are limited the the amount of time you take off then you do just HAVE to keep going.
I went to a week before my first and two weeks before on this one because I am the main earner so we need my wage to save and because we can only afford nine months off so if I went off three months early I would only have six months with the baby.
I don't tell people my reasons for working so late tho, it's no-one else's business - so some might think I'm boasting, I'm not, I'm
just stating facts.
Just remembered that I too went crackers nesting, at about 30 weeks DP came home to find the kitchen piled neatly in the yard after I ripped it all out with a crow bar . Again, this is not something I boast about- more a sign of how crazy hormones make you in pregnancy. I thought I was better this time round but the other day I started sobbing because dp said the doors didn't need glossing.
At 17 weeks, I could barely move ... by 36 weeks, I was organising a party.
I was like the thread title with DC1, worked til 38 weeks, painted rooms in my mat leave and bottomed out the house, my DH used to dread coming home to face the next bout of havoc I'd created!
I have got decreasingly like this with each subsequent pregnancy (pregnant with no.4)! Now my family are lucky if their bedding gets changed, clothes are washed and they are all fed. I just about to manage to look after my children/house before collapsing into bed by 9pm each night!
I felt like shit at 17 weeks and just wanted to sleep and puke, but when I was 37 weeks pregnant and had just started maternity leave we finally sold our house, so I was showing the surveyor round on my due date and negotiating with an estate agent when in early labour. I was sooooooooo desperate to be moving house!
It is what it is and it what it isn't is a competition. If you feel like crap, look after yourself and I hope you feel better soon.
I'm still active, doing sport etc at 36 weeks, but I'd say that was down to luck more than anything as I have had an easy time of it all the way through. The midwife did comment that being active on and your feet is good as bad posture and lounging on the sofa can increase the risk of a transverse or breech birth position. That alone is enough to make to walk miles and sit on a ball when resting!
I'm doing a good job of being fabulous at work Mon-Fri at 30 weeks...but I've just spent the whole weekend in bed. My daughters have missed after school activities in the last week because I nodded off on the sofa. Thinking I need to reconsider working to 37 weeks...
I, too, have had loads of energy in my 3rd trimester - and I think weekly yoga and swimming, coupled with riding my bike or walking everywhere has been paramount to LazyBaby staying head-down and engaging early. (Who knows, though, if I'd been working & commuting post 30-wks I might've been too tired to do anything.)
For those of you still in the 1st and 2nd trimesters - I imagine that your energy levels will really pick up as you get further along. It's happened with almost everyone I know - working or not.
And while you're having periods of extreme exhaustion, please try not to feel guilty for resting and taking care yourself. It's hard work to cook a baby!
OP, first child?
When you have your second, you do not have any choice at all. You simply have to be energetic and very physical, especially if they are a very highly energetic two year old boy! I think this can actually help with the tiredness because you have no chance of dwelling on it.
I too struggled with tiredness in early pregnancy (actually, more nausea than tiredness), but once through third tri, no tiredness. Now at 37 weeks, I never feel tired and yet i go to bed far too late I.e. midnight. But lots of people struggle with tiredness without being pregnant, so makes sense they will suffer more when pregnant. Whereas I rarely if ever struggle with tiredness.
When my newborn comes along, now that will be a different matter entirely!
How is all this bitching acceptable? If it was the other way around ('Gosh that 20wk pregnant woman is so lazy') it would be roundly chastised.
Some women sail through pregnancy, others don't.
It's not a competition.
I was volunteering at a café when my waters broke with my first pregnancy. This time it's exhausting enough just getting to the café & sitting around drinking tea & chatting & I'm only 22 weeks. If someone suggested I should be being helpful I might actually hit them! I really enjoyed pregnancy last time but I'm just so exhausted & had constant nausea from 3 weeks until about 17 weeks that was so debilitating that I could hardly get out of bed! In a funny sort of way I'm kinda glad I got to experience both good & less good pregnancies - I felt really guilty last time when one of my friends was being hospitalised with HG in the 2nd trimester & I was still really healthy & energetic at full term! I totally understand women who say they can't wait to get the baby out now though! I'm already counting down to 37 weeks & planning how I'm going to shake the baby out! I might cry if it's overdue! 14+1 weeks to go!
I took mat leave at 32 weeks and there have been a few raised eyebrows at me taking it so early, but once I explain that I teach in a nursery for children with behavioural difficulties and that I was having bricks thrown at me/ getting kicked in the bump/ having kids climb all over me all the way through my pregnancy, they seem to change their minds about that fairly quickly!! For me it was about keeping me and baby safe rather than exhaustion, and actually it's only been since 34 weeks that I've felt exhausted/uncomfortable/tired etc. Still been trying to take dog for walk daily and swim once a week though - must've worked cos baby's head is engaged and ready to go!
As other posters have said, every person experiences pregnancy differently and it's not a competition. People who say stuff like that to you are clearly looking for a gold medal or a pat on the back that they feel they deserve but will never get. Pity them!!
My favourite thing to do is say "I just listen to what my body is telling me" - very difficult to argue with that!!!
I'm 22 weeks and am managing to act fairly normal at work compared to before pregnancy (I'm a contractor and don't want to give any reason for them to terminate me early and hopefully may get a chance to go back afterwards so I want to keep up a good impression). But when I get home - I can just about manage to make it to the sofa!
Am going on mat leave at 30 weeks - hopefully then will be able to do a bit more than sleep and make some preparations for this baby!
I spent the night in the car stuck in snow in the M25 at 39 weeks. Do I get a prize? For either heroism or stupidity?
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