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On maternity leave while partner works? what annoying things does he do in the morning?

(24 Posts)
iamwhaticallpregnant Thu 24-Jan-13 08:45:52

Just curious. I'm 37 weeks and bored. My partner goes to work every week day and I stay here all day (which obviously I am SO grateful and lucky to have) but.....
is there anything your other half does in the morning that gets on your wick?

Gingersnap88 Thu 24-Jan-13 08:47:38

Creates a tornado of mess as he gets breakfast / looks for socks / keys etc. leaving it for me to clear up!

My DH has a habit of leaving his cereal bowl or plate if he as toast and a mug with dregs in on the work top above the dishwasher instead of actually placing in the dish washer. He also never puts the tea towel back where it belongs. It's always to be found on the work top in a heap after he has used it.
He is good though so I shouldn't really complain.

Doesnt get his clothes ready the night before, so I get woken at 7am with him.pratically in the wardrobe trying to use the light off his.phone to find his jeans.

KelleStar Thu 24-Jan-13 09:01:29

Hehehee! DH was used to a gentle awakening from his Mummy, he doesn't get it from me, in fact he has to get himself up on-time. This means a lamp on timer switches on at 6am and then the radio with -shudder- the perkiness of BBC R2.

Not fun when you don't have to get out of bed, and more annoying when he rolls over and falls back to sleep letting the light/radio annoy you.

When he finally get's up, he's usually in a panic as he can't find any clean jeans or pants or socks and he wakes you up to ask where they are. Why he can't prepare the night before.

grin He drives me mad some mornings. DD is 2 and I get really grumpy if he wakes her as she'll often stay in bed until 8am.

PeazlyPops Thu 24-Jan-13 09:03:36

What does your other half do to annoy you OP?

iamwhaticallpregnant Thu 24-Jan-13 09:13:09

oh .... nothing i can think of at the moment .... really nothing peazlypops..... except

He sprays this flippin toxic body spray stuff in the bathroom which creeps over to the bedroom and suffocates me in bed and stays in my nose and throat for hours.

He seems to make toast on the kithen surface as opposed to an actual plate so there are crumbs everywhere.

He ALWAYS drinks tea with the tea bag IN the cup which means i have to fish out and drain numerous tea bags with my hands and ferry them to the bin.

he will say "where did YOU put my ......" when he cant find something - already blaming me when I having touched anything.

But nothing springs to mind.

iamwhaticallpregnant Thu 24-Jan-13 09:15:11

saying that..... I am so so so overly grateful that he goes to work for us :-)

weeblueberry Thu 24-Jan-13 09:23:21

Right - prepare for me to sound like an utter bitch...

My partner is pretty high up in the company he works for and can pretty much waltz in whenever he likes. I'm hardly bottom of the fishbowl at my own job but do have to be there for 9am. Because I'm a lazy cow I tend to sleep right up until I really HAVE to get up and then run around like a headless chicken trying to get out in time to get to work. This is, always, when my partner fancies a snuggle or a cuddle or to discuss some deep and meaningful topic. He will pull me into a hug etc and I have to stop him and say 'I don't have time for affection right now! I'm late for work!'. This doesn't always go down well however grin

Yeah. I know I'm horrid.

sundaesundae Thu 24-Jan-13 09:26:14

Hmm, I maybe a grump but I wouldn't be touching his toast crumbs or the tea things.

I have 5 more weeks of work before mat leaves starts, boo!! DH and I always wake up together, so that won't change, though I may be spending more time in bed with the cats after he goes!

TwitchyTail Thu 24-Jan-13 09:47:09

To be honest, I feel so guilty about being snuggled up with the cat while he gets up early to trudge through the snow that nothing bothers me. He could play the bongo drums whilst singing YMCA and I wouldn't care. I just lie there and thank the baby for giving me a socially acceptable excuse to stay in bed on a weekday.

That said, he read an article on partners sharing maternity leave and mentioned it to me in hopeful tones. Yeah, not going to happen grin

iamwhaticallpregnant Thu 24-Jan-13 10:16:44

ha ha - I feel MAJORLY guilty when he has to go to work every morning. He looks so tired and grumpy and I lie there feeling terrible. BUT having said that - It is a daily struggle being just...pregnant. He gets to get out of the house and socialise and have friends and get fresh air. I am in constant pain and very lonely - and I really do miss having my job and colleagues and feeling the confidence that my job gives me - and my nice students (there are only a few of them). There's only so much Jeremy Kyle you can take before you want to go back to work. I will be happier when the baby is here and I have something to 'do' so I dont feel so terribly guilty for what i am sure, to him, looks like a lazy cow lazing around.

Rainbowbabyhope Thu 24-Jan-13 11:56:40

This is exactly one of the reasons I won't be starting my maternity leave until baby arrives! I think its a great idea to share maternity leave so each get to spend half a year looking after LO and can each get annoyed with the others bad morning habits equally!

NAR4 Thu 24-Jan-13 12:55:58

My Dh sets the alarm for 6am but leaves it buzzing for ages and then presses snooze. Doesn't get up until it goes off for ages again. Also leaves his phone on the bedside table and the alarm goes off every ten minutes, just in case he sleeps through the alarm. I endlessly ask him to turn it off when he gets up, but he says he forgets.

Never gets his clothes ready the night before so about 6.30am he turns the light on in the bedroom and starts rumaging through the wardrobe for his things.

By the time all this has happened my toddler has been woken up also, so no staying in bed for me.

Annoyingly he thinks I should get up with our toddler in the night though, because he has to get up for work in the morning and I get to lie in. hmm

Brugmansia Thu 24-Jan-13 13:06:03

iamwhaticallpregnant you've summed up how I feel at the moment. One week to go and feel like I'm doing nothing, so guilty about that, but also too tired and uncomfortable to do anything productive.

iamwhaticallpregnant Thu 24-Jan-13 13:32:06

ooh - me too Brugmansia - I am 19 days away - apparently. and I feel terribly guilty and lazy! At least when I have the baby we will both have equal power once more - it is really hard being the one who appears to be doing nothing.

NAR4 Thu 24-Jan-13 13:45:25

You are definately not doing nothing ladies. You are growing another whole person. Save your energy for labour. It is horrible to start off labour already feeling tired.

talulahbeige Thu 24-Jan-13 13:51:30

Sets his alarm for stupid o'clock (6am) then snoozes it for 20 mins before getting up. Last night i suggested just setting it for the later time, i got told that it wasn't going to happen. I then had a chuckle to myself for when baby arrives and it all changes!!

talulahbeige Thu 24-Jan-13 14:09:53

Sets his alarm for stupid o'clock (6am) then snoozes it for 20 mins before getting up. Last night i suggested just setting it for the later time, i got told that it wasn't going to happen. I then had a chuckle to myself for when baby arrives and it all changes!!

BonaDea Thu 24-Jan-13 14:24:36

I haven't started mat leave yet (5 weeks and counting) but can already identify with some of the things on this thread!

If I have to get up really early for work or whatever, I make sure I've laid out my clothes in the next door bedroom, sneak out of our room as soon as my alarm goes off (in the dark) and gently close the door to try and avoid waking him, before getting on with getting ready and sneaking out quietly.

If my husband has to get up for an early meeting or whatever, he first of all lies there LITERALLY mumbling and grumbling about how early it is, how tired he is, how dark and cold it is outside. Then the covers are thrown aside with gay abandon creating a horrible draft. I am obviously wide awake by this point, but trying to ignore it in the hope he'll catch on that 'I'm asleep'. He then trots out of the bedroom, leaving the door wide open which a) lets all the noise from the bathroom in; b) lets the hall light shine in; and c) lets at least one if not both of our cats come in to lie on my head purring loudly into my ear. He then starts his shower, by which point he has perked up considerably and is perhaps singing. When that is finished, he comes in, plonks himself on the bed with his wet towel around him and checks his blackberry - another light shining in the former-darkness. Then starts the in-the-wardrobe-cursing search for clothes, finished off by putting his shoes on and clumping around all areas of the house - which has polished boards throughout, no carpets - loudly. Then I'll hear his taxi, the driver of which he loudly hails from the front door, before slamming it and leaving. FFS!!!!

And don't get me started on tea towels. My DH has NO IDEA what a tea towel is - neither a towel for drying hands NOR a cloth for cleaning up mess you've spilled on the counter. Seriously, you'd think a man with a first from Cambridge could fvcking work it out. grin

Reebok Thu 24-Jan-13 15:40:06

Am not on maternity yet but signed off work due to hyperemesis...and I already know how my DH is going to annoy me. He puts alarm on 20 mins before he has to wake up and then snoozes...and when he does get up, he leaves the alarm on snooze. He's fine once he's left the room to go for a shower but then he comes back in, and starts hunting for clothes with his phone...why can't men just get things out the night before?? And then he starts asking me where something is? I ignore him to show him
I'm sleeping so he decides to turn the light on to have a better look. At this point I feel like punching him and would if I had the energy! Really pees me off because he knows I'm suffering from insomnia and get about 2 hours sleep all night long...only seem to be able to sleep once he's gone funnily enough!

iamwhaticallpregnant Thu 24-Jan-13 16:14:13

Bonadea that is hilarious - I love the description!!
I just want to clarify that I understand I am incredibly grateful that he goes to work for us and provides for us and I am a very lucky woman ...... as now I do feel quite bad.

weeblueberry Thu 24-Jan-13 16:20:30

Wow Brondea that sounds pretty familiar as well. grin

BonaDea Thu 24-Jan-13 16:24:27

Feels better to get it off my chest! grin

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