Bit of background info - mum has always been a bit overweight and tried various diets with little success over the years. I think I was reasonably normal-sized as a child, but there were always slightly cruel taunts about the size of my bum, legs etc from an early age. As an adult I have been a bit overweight, but not massively so, but the 'teasing' continues - was humiliated in front of friends/family at a big event last year when she made a cruel comment about me in front of everyone. My sister, on the other hand, is quite thin (borderline eating disorder) and gets praised/complimented for being slim!
Anyway, I'm currently 34+3 and went to visit my mum yesterday - haven't seen her for a few months and took the 4D scan images/video with me to show her. And as soon as the baby's legs came into view, off she goes! "oh look at the baby's legs - big thighs just like mine" and so on. I can't believe she is projecting her body image shit onto an unborn baby
So maybe I'm being a bit sensitive, but I really want to nip this sort of nonsense in the bud before it becomes a bad habit. I'm big/old enough to stand up for myself these days but really don't want DD to become the butt of family jokes just because she doesn't have skinny legs etc. All those 'jokes'/comments over the years did have an effect on my self esteem and feel pretty angry about it, tbh.
Any ideas on how I can get my mother to keep these sorts of comments to herself without upsetting her? Any direct confrontation will, of course, probably end in tears... I just feel so sad that my much-wanted baby is being teased before she is even born!
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Argh - how do I stop my mother projecting her weight/body image issues on unborn DD?
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eagleray · 10/12/2012 22:56
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