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First time, I waited a couple of hours and painted a rock I'd picked up on holiday (where we conceived) and wrote Baby (our surnames) and Made in Greece on the back.

I gave it to him and he didn't get it. At all. Sadly lost that one just over a week later.

But second time round, within 30 seconds of peeing. He was yelling goodbye and I shouted down 'hang on a minute' then staggered out of the bathroom, shaking, saying 'I'm pregnant again'. We had conceived three weeks after mc.

We established that we needed to be better at sharing our feelings after the previous experience - and he's been a total rock so far. Glad you were able to tell him.

oh goody wilde you too?!! [prances]

Before I even took the test, and both times it was positive and I showed him straight away.

Better to share, then he will be able to support you.

Congratulations

Congratulations! Immediately.

Oh and Congratulations

So sorry to hear about your lose, hand holding if needed!
I've lost 2 so far this year 23 and 6 weeks and pregnant again possibly miscarrying now.. All time i found out i told him for support and if anything happened we can go through it together. All 3 times i found out i stood in the bathroom crying with the pregnancy test in my hand, had to shout him in haha! Remember every pregnancy is different

congrats foof! we are all over on the antenatal board where we have a 'grads of the wine and shagging after mc' thread it would be ace if you came and joined us! Understand if you want to be private too tho.

glad you told your DH, early pg is no joke even if you don't mc. And FWIW I mc'ed three times in the end before making this one, and told DH we were pg each time. We looked after each other. Takes two eh?!

good luck!

thank you

Foof Just wanted to say congratulations I remember you from a ttc after mc thread earlier this year. So happy for you

Thanks all for your replies and congratulations, we talked last night I'm glad a couple of people here knew where I was coming from, maybe unless you have the previous history then it's harder to understand. Was starting to feel like I was being very mean when it's all about loving someone and not wanting them to be hurt.

Fingers crossed everything will be ok

I was crying like a loon and sobbing my heart out so he wanted to know why...

I have since dealt with these emotions and and looking forward to another one. It was just very unexpected, unplanned and not what I thought I'd be doing having just secured a fancy job and tight finances on a new house.

wee at making DP pee on one that's brilliant!

Told my DH the day I found out. I took the test at work and told him that evening

I waved a damp pee stick at him while he was trying to quickly scoff a take away before the plumber turned up.

I had to wait the (excruciating) 25 minutes before he got home from work. I'd only done the test because the pharmacist asked if I was pregnant and I sort of laughed at her and told her no. But it put the seed of doubt in my mind. Then when I got home I did test, assuming it would be negative. But man...it was fairly conclusive. As were the 5 tests I did afterwards (and the one I made DP pee on to make sure the batch wasn't faulty...)

I can't imagine how he'd have felt if he'd thought I had gone through anything like that alone. You're a team. What happens to you with a pregnancy happens to both of you. Please do involve him. x

The first very faint positive I showed DH straight away, waved the stick in his face, but he couldnt see it so I thought I was imagining it. AF didnt arrive the next day, so I took a test but we were staying at my friends house, so I waited for the test to develop hiding in the bathroom, then I had this amazing secret that I wasnt able to tell DH until we went to bed that evening, so maybe 6 hours after I'd got absolute confirmation.

I wouldnt keep it from him, I think he might be more upset by not knowing. and this would be an amazing boost over christmas! congratulations

He was in the bathroom with me when I did the test. Tell him, my dh would be so upset if he thought I felt I had to go through that alone.

I told DH straight away every time and have had multiple MCs. If this doesn't go to plan you will need him there, if it does he deserves to share in the excitement as much as you. It is never easy after a MC but just remember you are in it together. x

I have had 3 mc's previously. We got pregnant this time while waiting for our appt to come through for recurrent mc clinic so not actively ttc.
I was terrified as knew I was preg as AF had not arrived. Did a test and DH was really happy, said it was meant to happen and really supportive.
I really needed him to know so he could understand why I was so scared and support me. Now 13 weeks and still scared but don't think that ever goes. Tell him!

We'd been TTC for a long time and were having a really tough time. 5 days before I got the BFP we agreed to stop TTC after I got my period . I tested when I got home form work (twice after I got two lines on the first one!). I waited for about half an hour after he got home, took a deep breath and showed him the tests. I had no idea who he'd react after everything we'd said but he was really happy

The longer you wait, the harder it will be to tell him. I'm sure he'll notice anyway. You can't face this on your own until after Christmas! Just tell him. You need his support - you're in it together.

Straight away, but he'd guessed already!

You will need his support if something happens - I would tell him

With dc1 it was a couple of weeks because I was shocked and we weren't getting on well at the time.

Dc2 straight away.

Dc3 I sent him a pic of the text which he showed to his workmates as he didn't know what it was!

Congratulations.
I'd also tell straightway as we're a team that deals with everything together - the good and the bad

About three days after I had a positive test. We had been trying for years and years (and had lots of fertility treatment) and I wanted it confirmed by blood tests before I got his hopes up.

5 minutes afte3r I had the positive.