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Pregnant after a miscarriage, as the bumps get bigger we get braver, 1st,2nd or 3rd trimester and even graduates cuddling there babies!!, reasurance and hand holding aplenty!

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New thread before the other fills and locks!

gemdrop84 Sun 09-Dec-12 08:21:13

Thanks ladies. Glad I'm not the only one then to feel that way re hogging the baby. Honestly started to panic a bit about it, silly me....but as you say sod what anyone thinks. Your mil sounds like a nightmare state and I don't blame you for organising xmas that way! Your poor nephew sad I've always felt uncomfortable if a baby cried when I held them, before I had dd, but I would try allsorts to soothe them.

001001 Sun 09-Dec-12 08:32:56

Thanks state :-)

FoofFighter Sun 09-Dec-12 09:32:41

Hello all can I come in please, I just poas about 10 mins ago and got two lines.

We lost our first baby together in April, mmc at 9 weeks, would have been due last month.

OH is asleep still. I'm in shock and shitting bricks that it's all going to go tits up again. Can I not tell him for a few weeks to protect him?

WLmum Sun 09-Dec-12 09:48:01

Whilst I was in the shower this morning, dd1 was sitting in the nursery wearing my breasfeeding support cushion and breastfeeding a succession of soft toys! Bless her! Touch wood they are both excited about the arrival of their new sibling.

WLmum Sun 09-Dec-12 09:53:13

Hey foof, come on in! Love the name btw. Sorry and congrats, I know exactly how you feel - I seriously thought about not telling DH for a bit this time to try to protect us both but decided against it - I needed someone to share the secret with, and his first reaction (delighted) was priceless. That said, I have found this thread invaluable in having somewhere else to air my anxieties so as not to pressure cook here too much.

Countmyblessings Sun 09-Dec-12 18:59:45

Welcome Foof - congrats to you! this thread gets very busy as we have so much to share! Holding hands after dealing with either a MMC, MC or ectopic is so important couldn't cope with MN!
I also had a loss in April, I was totally shocked to see lines also am 26 weeks now!

LittlemissChristmas Sun 09-Dec-12 19:13:21

Hi everyone can I also join?
Nearly 13 weeks after 3 mc's. still can't quite believe we've made it this far!

wifey6 Sun 09-Dec-12 19:28:34

Hello...can I please join the thread?
Am feeling very anxious as am 9+6 & symptoms are fading & I'm scared as had a MMC in April. Never realised how anxious I would feel this time sad
Is this normal or am I being daft?

WLmum Sun 09-Dec-12 19:42:45

Hi little - sorry and cOngrats - fingers xd your past the danger zone now - have you had a scan yet? We all understand that the anxiety hangs around for a long time though.

Hi wifey not being daft at all. I had a melt down at around 9 weeks with this pg (now 38 weeks) as my symptoms disappeared - I was convinced that I'd mcd again. Luckily I was due an early scan at that point which showed all was well. I did lots of googling and asked every health professional I could and they all said disappearing symptoms did not necessarily mean a mc. Fingers crossed this is the case for you too.

wifey6 Sun 09-Dec-12 19:56:00

Thank you WLmum...have MW appointment Thursday & a scan in 2 weeks. Don't suppose dopplers are recommended this early?

WLmum Sun 09-Dec-12 20:04:04

Probably not - I'd guess it would be quite hard to get the exact right spot to hear a hb so could just lead to more stress - that seems to be the general consensus for dopplers at most stages. I'm sure thurs and 2 weeks seem a long way off but try to take one day at a time and they'll come round.

wifey6 Sun 09-Dec-12 20:09:00

Thank you..just worried sad

GaryBuseysTeeth Sun 09-Dec-12 20:13:09

Another newbie, if you'll have me?

5weeks pregnant after a mc in October (luckily got pg the cycle after mc), going to book in with Dr at about 7wks, after I've had a private scan (don't want to return maternity exemption card/cancel mw apts again)....still poas every few days!

wifey, there was a MN-er on another thread who mentioned she got a hb on the doppler from about 10wks, but that's very early, I would leave it awhile, if you can't find one it would make you more nervous!

wifey6 Sun 09-Dec-12 20:15:57

Gary..thank you. Sorry for your loss & congratulations on your pregnancy.
I think I will hold off & just try & be positive x

Welcome aboard to all the new people, feeling terrified is pretty normal, I'm 38wks and it still gets me sometimes! From our last few threads it seems a huge range of feelings are normal, its a long hard journey but some day it will end in a baby.

It was a year ago yesterday my MMC was discovered, this wednesday it will be a year since my erpc. Next wednesday, december 19th, this baby is being delivered by elcs! Its all bittersweet but I can honestly say its made this pregnancy so much more precious and amazing, every scan has had me enchanted.

Hand holding is always available as are hugs and a ear for anything, from epic rants to small victorys. Take every day as it comes, one at a time. We've had 3 graduates already since I started the first thread in April, and me and WL are both welcoming babys next week! We have a high sucess rate here smile

LittlemissChristmas Sun 09-Dec-12 20:25:01

gary I did the same, didn't want to cancel so didn't see midwife till 10 weeks. Had a scan at recurrent miscarriage clinic every week from 6 weeks which put my mind at ease but also gave me something to worry about and sick at thought of every week.
Had 12 week scan now so starting to relax more but finding it difficult to get too excited.

wifey6 Sun 09-Dec-12 20:29:59

Aww state...what a lovely post.
Sorry to hear of your previous loss...I agree it must make this pregnancy that even more precious.
How wonderfully exciting that your little one & WLmums baby will be here soon. smile Gives hope x

Storys of sucessful pregnancys after mc/mmc I've read on mn are all that have kept me going, and the lovely ladies on here.

I have a 5yo ds and 4yo dd aswell who I fell pregnant with and carried without a care in the world so to then have 2 mcs and a mmc was quite a shock to the system and made me realise how lucky and naïve I was before.

Huge good luck to all of you in the first trimester <shuffles up to make room on the sticky pregnancy sofa and offers round cake>

yellowsnownoteatwillyou Sun 09-Dec-12 20:45:46

Can I join? smile Currently 10 week.... I think will find out on Wednesday, after a mmc at 6 weeks found out at 11.

I am terrified for the dating scan on Wednesday incase it shows nothing again.

Even though i Feel totally different this time, loads of symptoms, heartburn for the first time in my life, and nighttime nausea. Loads of cramping though.

DH is keeping his madness to himself, as was a total mess after mmc. So trying to think good thoughts.

WLmum Sun 09-Dec-12 21:19:06

Fingers crossed for you yellow. It's easy to forget about the chaps isn't it, I know my DH said he wouldn't want to try again if we lost this one as the mc and mmc have been just too hard. It's good to hear that you have a caring DH, hope you can support each other. Here is great for support too.

sundaesundae Sun 09-Dec-12 21:22:59

yellow, cramping is almost certainly your uterus stretching to accommodate your growing bean smile

I'm now 25 weeks after a MC and a termination for medical reasons. Things do get easier, but worry does strike very suddenly and I think it will always be there. I envy people who have only know pregnancy joy, but maybe that will change when I hopefully have my baby in March.

yellowsnownoteatwillyou Sun 09-Dec-12 21:37:57

Thanks, I am trying to think good thoughts, don't think I will believe its real until I get the scan on Wednesday, which is what I'm scared off as well. Booked it for 10am so don't have the whole day to stress.

DH very supportive indeed, but also terrified. Will update on Wednesday.

Wishing lots of luck to everyone as well. grin

sundaesundae Sun 09-Dec-12 21:40:54

I begged for the first scan of the day and was crying before she even put the transducer on my tummy and came out with the now infamous to us line of "there's nothing in there, and if there is it is dead..." queue much silence from the room. Oops.

Welcome aboard yellow I had loads of cramping this time, I'm sure its because we are super aware of what's going on and analysing every single thing, I went in to my scan expecting nothing, the thing barely touched me and the sonographer said, "ooh this is a busy one, nice strong heartbeat" I was so shocked I couldn't speak and had a huge lump in my throat. Good luck, ill keep my fingers crossed for you. X

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