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Hyperemesis sufferer...in need of some gentle words of encouragement

(47 Posts)
Reebok Fri 30-Nov-12 19:52:42

Hi all, I'm 7 weeks pregnant and suffering from
hG since week 5. Doctor has put me on cyclizine today. Feeling so rough and awful. Got sent home from
Work on Thursday because I just couldn't cope. I'm a teacher and I'm finding it hard to get on with anything these days. This is my second pregnancy. Last time I had hG and I had a missed miscarriage. It was horrible cos I felt sick up until the day I had a d n c. Having hG again is just bringing back awful memories and I'm scared il miscarry again. Just can't cope! :'(

Reebok Wed 05-Dec-12 13:10:16

Thanks Nannyl I hope so too. Doc won't give me anything new just yet as wants to see if my body will adjust to cyclizine. He says that as I reacted well to it through IV it should work in tablet form too....erm yeh right!! My first midwife app on mon so I figured if doc doesn't help me soon, I will beg midwife too!

tinyshinyanddon Wed 05-Dec-12 12:13:18

I am recommending zofran too - routinely given in the USA for ms and hg. Also just helped dh and I through the seasonal vomiting virus.

nannyl Tue 04-Dec-12 22:18:15

also ask for ondasnatron..... its is a very expensive drug but its good, and you can have it IV as well as tablet form.

nannyl Tue 04-Dec-12 22:16:20

hey dont worry

i have HG too, and i dont think id have even noticed wink

also (and i have this issue) my nearest hospital does not do pregnancy / birth (there is a midwife birth centre,a and an EPU but thats it)....

therefor i always go to the A&E at the hospital that i would go to if i were to go to hospital to have a baby (I dont, i choose homebirth) because at least there there are maternity and gyn wards, so you end up with midwiives and obstetricians, who actually understand and deal with HG as part of their job on a daily basis.

this hospital is 45+++ min drive away (much longer journey at peak times) but its worth being there to be in the right place.

Having HG is truley horrendous, but at least being with other women of child bearing age, some of whom may even have (or have had) what you have is better than being on a general ward of "old people"

I do hope you start to improve soon..... honestly one day you will and the first few weeks of HG are so so much harder then the later weeks. (yes all are crap, but really the beginning is worst)

Reebok Tue 04-Dec-12 13:32:51

Nannyl just realized I wrote Lucinda in wrong thread. Am clearly not with it today!

Reebok Tue 04-Dec-12 13:29:49

Hi guys, my doc is a complete twat! 'relax! The medicine will work slowly!' I wanted to pick up the chair I was sat on and smack him around the head with it!! They tried bucastem on me at hospital through tablet but just made me more sick. So told me to continue cyclizine. No Lucinda, I haven't gone back to a n e, but if I feel worse later on, will do. Trying to avoid it to be honest cos it was a horrible experience. I was put in a ward with elderly people with catheters and bed pans because there was no gyno dept. They only admitted me as an emergency.

So far today, only vomited once...thanks to crummy acid reflux! But have managed to eat a banana...hoping it holds! How are you ladies doing?

Paradisefound Tue 04-Dec-12 10:28:22

I was in hospital with Hg twice back in September. I found cyclazine was the only med that had any impact, I tried several. I started to feel better about 16-17 weeks. Now 21 weeks and still sick sometimes in the morning. If possible get yourself signed off and rest until you are better. Best of luck.

nannyl Mon 03-Dec-12 21:47:17

HG is truley awful

at least we are in good company with Kate Middleton...

lets hope she raises awareness of this awful condition, and that the press stop refering to it as bad morning sickness.

Hope you start to feel better soon, otherwise suggest you go back to hospital

did they give you ondasnatron? that worked well for me, had it IV first so couldnt vomit it

Reebok Mon 03-Dec-12 18:31:42

Thanks ladies. Still feeling like I'm at deaths door. Have spent past 2 nights in hospital after I had to be rushed in on sat night for vomiting blood. I hate HG!!!

glossyflower Mon 03-Dec-12 07:55:13

Oh my goodness I feel for you I really really do. I have HG also although now it's controlled and I'm planningin going back to work next week.
Mine started gradually from about 6 weeks and was severe until about 17 weeks. I had two hospital admissions and moved into my parents - even though I had just been newly married- because I couldn't do anything for myself and my husband didn't know how to handle it.
I was completely confined other than appointments, for weeks. My mum did a lot for me, made my food, helped me wash and dress, gave me moral encouragement. I lost a stone and a half in two weeks. I felt so sick I begged my husband and parents to take me for a termination. My mum would say, "you're only saying that because you feel sick not because you don't want the baby, give it til 12 weeks and see". I'm so glad I didn't have a termination as it all would have been for nothing but those few weeks were the worst of my life.
I was fed up of people saying to me, it won't last forever and it'll all be worth it when you get that baby in your arms. And I had people saying to me it was MS and everyone gets it, but when they saw how much weight I'd lost and that I could only manage to eat a few mouthfuls of food each day (and still vomit it up) they realised it was serious.
I'm now 20 weeks and still on ondansetron cyclizine thiame and ranitidine. I have been trying to cut down the meds but every time I do I get sick so will continue on them.
My top tips are to get yourself some ketostix from the chemist if you haven't already done so, ketones of plus 3 is an immediate hospital admission. They should check ketones at the GP too. Don't bother running to the bathroom everytime you are sick, you'll just waste energy and feel worse - I got an old plastic mixing bowl and used that. That bowl never left my side for weeks even when I went to the toilet. And don't be afraid to ask your friends and family for help. I felt terribly guilty that I relied so much on my parents, my dad has been ill himself and had a bone marrow transplant this year, but I really wouldn't have got through it without their help and now I feel better they are pleased for me I can finally enjoy pregnancy.
Ask for a second opinion in regards to your GP and be forceful. Similar thing happened to me because I was new to this and the GPs don't always know much about HG. Now I know more about it, I speak to my GP and tell them what I want to happen assertively.
I really do hope you feel better soon. Xxx

RooneyMara Sun 02-Dec-12 07:33:37

Ok I went to bed early so missed you post - sorry maxolon doesn't work for you. I'm the opposite - tried cyclizine the second time and it didn't work! smile

If you are this bad, and I wasn't, so I'm sorry if I'm all wrong about stuff - (I never really thought of mine as HG 'proper' as I managed not to throw up though it was a constant fight and I couldn't function for several months) I'd be asking for adsmission for rehydration - which can, I've heard make a HUGE difference to how you feel and how you cope, even if it only lasts a few days - and I'd also be asking for ondansetron (Zofran) which apparently is one of the best meds they can offer.

I've not tried it, but they should be giving it to you if things are like this.
Don't feel obliged to take your vits, don't feel obliged to drink water. I didn't, I drank milkshake or squash or had lollies or anything I could bear to put in my mouth basically.

Pressure to eat and drink the 'right' things makes it worse. Just get by however you can ok x

TheQueensDinner Sat 01-Dec-12 23:14:21

Hi Reebok. I thought about posting a similar thread last week.

I'm 8+6 and after 2 weeks of being unable to get out of bed and finally being unable to eat or drink anything, I self-referred to my local maternity unit and was admitted on Fri am with 4+ keytones. After 13 bags of fluid, I still have 4+ keytones but I definately feel better and where earlier in the week I felt utter despair, I've found a bit of fight in me again.

I'm very sorry you're having such a rough time but like you, it helps me to know that other women are going through something similar. I have 4 other DC and I feel overwhelmed at how far I still have to go and can't really imagine how I'm going to cope. Hope you have a better day tommorrow.

nannyl Sat 01-Dec-12 22:31:00

there is light at the end of the tunnel

i had HG for the whole 9m but after 18 / 20 weeks its was much much easier than the first few weeks, which are living hell IMO

Reebok Sat 01-Dec-12 22:21:45

No that doesn't sound harsh. Thanks Nelly, hope you're right. There is a light at the end of the tunnel eh!

NellyBluth Sat 01-Dec-12 22:18:40

I'll be honest, it felt like a lifetime at the time I was feeling sick. Sorry if that sounds harsh, I just feel it is one of those things you shouldn't dress up.

But hopefully you will start to feel better very soon, and won't suffer from it too long. You will have good days and bad days. I found sleeping through anything that was bad the best idea grin

The majority of HG suffererers will feel loads better at the end of their pg, it is rare that it continues for the whole pg. And then you will be the mum who is practically sprinting through their last month or so of pg, everything being great simply because they don't feel sick!

Reebok Sat 01-Dec-12 22:09:00

I'm only 7 weeks Nelly. Feels like a lifetime away until I can feel normal again. Can't keep lucoZade down. Trying to sip ice cold water. And will defo go in morning. @inclusionist, thank u.

NellyBluth Sat 01-Dec-12 22:05:13

I remember being in proper hysterical, angry, self-pitying tears at about 14w because I felt like I couldn't take any more of it. I had moments where I felt I would have done anything not to be pregnant; I know that is awful, but when you are that sick and tired and hormonal things get away from you.

Not everyone loves being pg. Hell, a lot of women don't even like being pregnant. But at the moment the dehydration and exhaustion won't be helping either.

Try and take tiny sips of water (or lemonade or lucozade for the sugars etc if you think you can) and go to A&E early tomorrow morning. If you can't keep liquids down then it is never, ever wrong to go to the hospital.

Inclusionist Sat 01-Dec-12 21:53:54

My god. Reading this I realise the fact that I made it into work each day means I had nothing close to your experience.

TBH though, I think a new life should be worth the mother having time to support it. If you need to lie in bed for your entire pregnancy (rubbish as it might be for you) your boss and the law should understand. It's 10months. The little life may exist for 100 years.

I do hope it gets better though!

Reebok Sat 01-Dec-12 21:53:50

Depends on how I'm feeling really. There are moments when I can sip water and times like now, where I can't hold down anything. I really don't feel like I can take much more! Sorry to rant but I hate this feeling. I want to love being pregnant...I should love being pregnant after my miscarriage...but I absolutely hate it!

NellyBluth Sat 01-Dec-12 21:50:16

Are you managing to get any liquids down today at all? Have you tried ice lollies (not that I imagine you have many in the house this time of year!)

When I was first diagnosed by a very lovely GP who believed how bad it was, he told me to stop eating for a day solids for a day or, just have cupasoup and lucozade etc. On really, really terrible days I found this worked better than the 'little and often' of crackers etc., which worked when it was background nausea but not when I was violently ill.

But yes, if you are struggling with even fluids then just go to A&E.

Reebok Sat 01-Dec-12 21:37:37

Thanks guys. I feel rubbish! Puked 3 times in past hour again. I want to die! Going hospital tomorrow. Need help! Going to force gp to sign me off because there's no way I can look after 4 year olds on this condition.

TwitchyTail Sat 01-Dec-12 21:27:22

GoldenGreen, if ONE more person had asked me "Have you tried ginger biscuits?" I would have POKED their eyes out with my bare hands.

NellyBluth Sat 01-Dec-12 21:10:17

Golden, that's exactly how I used to describe it. It is essentially 4-9 months of food poisoning. If you weren't pg and had those symptoms, you'd be at the doctors on day 4 and they'd give you something!

GoldenGreen Sat 01-Dec-12 21:09:10

I agree about the folic acid, nannyl - I am sure it's taking it pre-conception that makes the most difference anyway.

nannyl Sat 01-Dec-12 21:06:50

i havent even attempted to take a folic acid since 6 weeks

no point as i puke them and loose precious fluids as well

for both pregnancys i took folic acid for many many months before concieving, and both times midwives have said not to worry about it, as i have lots built up from having it for so long before getting pg.
I figure my baby was fine last time (stopped at 7 weeks last time) so hopefully so will this one be fine too...

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