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Hyperemesis sufferer...in need of some gentle words of encouragement

(47 Posts)
Reebok Fri 30-Nov-12 19:52:42

Hi all, I'm 7 weeks pregnant and suffering from
hG since week 5. Doctor has put me on cyclizine today. Feeling so rough and awful. Got sent home from
Work on Thursday because I just couldn't cope. I'm a teacher and I'm finding it hard to get on with anything these days. This is my second pregnancy. Last time I had hG and I had a missed miscarriage. It was horrible cos I felt sick up until the day I had a d n c. Having hG again is just bringing back awful memories and I'm scared il miscarry again. Just can't cope! :'(

TwitchyTail Fri 30-Nov-12 20:46:03

Poor you sad

I have so much sympathy. I had terrible sickness until 17 weeks (was diagnosed with hyperemesis by my GP though not sure if it really was - it was awful anyway!). It was so much better after 20 weeks, although I still have the occasional vom.

You actually have a LOWER risk of miscarriage with more severe sickness, so take heart. Of course there are no guarantees, but there would be more cause for concern if you didn't have any at all.

I have no practical advice as nothing helped me, other than to say hang in there - it will end eventually, I promise! Take sick leave if you need to, rest as much as you can (cancel everything non-essential), get someone else to do all the housework, and just look after yourself.

ghoulelocks Fri 30-Nov-12 20:48:49

well I've done it in style with hitting weeks 34/35/36 in hospital and even that hasn't affected baby so do try not to worry.

I found metaclopramide worked MUCH better

nannyl Fri 30-Nov-12 21:04:52

sending you bigs hugs

im 11 weeks into my 2nd HG pregnancy.... last time was HG for the whole 9months

all i can say is that yes it is living hell, and im also living it now BUT the end result is worth it, and despite what i said last time about never again, i HAVE done it again

I agree spend as much time in bed as possible doing NOTHING.... and if you are signed off for the rest of your pregnancy (as i was last time) then so be it.

come on the hyperemisis support thread for lots of support XXX

Reebok Sat 01-Dec-12 19:14:54

Thanks ladies. Helps to know there are more women out there who feel like me. If one more person tells me it's just morning sickness and it will go, I will scream. Spent most of today throwing up. Cyclizine hasnt kicked in yet. @twitchy tail, really hope you're right about lower miscarriage rate cos I had HG last time and still miscarried. Think it made it worse cos I went through the sickness for nothing. Feel so awful. Can't bare to be around hubby at the moment. It's not his fault but everything he does seems to annoy me. Feel like such a cow! Well thanks for letting me rant. Trying to find current hyperemesis thread but there's so many! X

nannyl Sat 01-Dec-12 19:22:02

here it is http://www.mumsnet.com/Talk/pregnancy/1535253-Hyperemesis-Support

come and join those of us who understand that HG is NOT MS!!!!!!

and if you keep being sick back to Drs..... while going to hospital is not fun, IV makes nearly all of us feel better for at least a short while. xxx

nannyl Sat 01-Dec-12 19:22:44
Inclusionist Sat 01-Dec-12 19:28:06

I was sick for my whole pregnancy. A week after the 24/7 'morning' sickness wore off the pre-eclampsia kicked in.

I am a teacher too- at the time was teaching KS1 kids with EBD. I stole a 'poang' (IKEA) chair that was knocking about in school and spent every 'quiet' minute sat in that. My LSA's did the energetic stuff for me. How understanding is your boss? If reasonably so, I would just make a nest in your classroom- line it with saltimes and gingernuts and try not to leave it unless a child is about to fall off a cliff.

It IS worth it so hold on. I hated every second of my pregnancy so much that I will not have another child. However, I love my son so, so much that I would go though that pain over again for him a million times. I know that is a contradiction and makes no sense, but you will understand it when you have your DC!

FeelingGreen Sat 01-Dec-12 19:32:05

massive sympathies coming from me! I know it is so frustrating when people with no idea make helpful suggestions like 'ginger biscuits', but there are also plenty of us out there who have been there and understand...

must be extra hard though after last time and I can see that that must make it harder for you to fight through it, but hopefully this time all will be well

keep speaking to your doctor(s) too when you're struggling, mine were great at giving me support (mainly by telephone appointments) when I needed it.

the thing that helped me the most in the end was taking minute sips of water all the time, such tiny amounts that I was basically wetting my tongue a little, but it just about kept me getting too dehyrdated whilst not being an amount my body would recognise and reject.

I was truly awful to my husband at times, feel bad about it now but I am sure they understand its just the illness meaning you're struggling

nannyl Sat 01-Dec-12 19:39:20

the thing is if you have HG you may not be able to manage to get out of bed....

HG and morning sickness are different.... i have never had MS so i cant necessarily comment but HG is not morning sickness, and most people can not work through it.

I agree its absolutely worth it, but (meant in the nicest possible way) HG and MS are different so while many people can and do struggle through MS, it is not nearly as easy or necesarily possible when you have HG.

My Dr did not hesitate to sign me off for the whole duration of HG... and there is no way i could have worked.... for over 2 months i only got out of bed to visit drs and go to hospital for IV (oh and to vomit of course)

Reebok Sat 01-Dec-12 19:39:55

Thank you nannyl, have found the thread.

Inclusionist, I doubt I have enough strength to make it make next week. Head can be supportive when she wants to be but I know she will freak out if I get signed off by doc. I teach reception so there are no moments when I can just leave them. Only thing that seems to work for me is coke. Takes away nausea for few mins.

Feeling green...thank u for your kind words. My doc is a bit of an idiot and just tells me it will pass eventually and to enjoy the pregnancy. How???? I can barely get out of bed except to leg it to the bathroom for a puke! Sorry for tmi.

Hubby bless him is not letting me push him away though no matter how hard I try. He's making me go hospital tomorrow if I continue to throw up as knows the doc is useless and I'll be better off getting an IV. It was the only time I felt slightly human last time. Those blessed drips!

Reebok Sat 01-Dec-12 19:43:30

Nannyl you're right about difference between ms and HG. My sister is preg too at the moment and has normal ms. She doesn't understand and says that she managed to work through ms and so should I. And always suggests stupid things to help me feel better. I had to get signed off last time but had to beg my doc. Going to have to do it again. Really need to change docs!

RooneyMara Sat 01-Dec-12 19:46:32

I'm sorry you're going through this, it's horrifying, I know.

I'd second metoclopramide. It was so great to have something that worked - well I still felt ill but it was reassuring to know it would help prevent the actual vomiting.

I tried to sleep a lot when things were bad, I spent a lot of weeks mostly in bed, lying down, trying to sleep through it so the days went faster. My other children coped well though it wasn't great for them.

It improved around 14-15 weeks and went away somewhere in the twenties...now 35 weeks and I don't think about it too much now, or remember how bad it felt. I know this is the last time I'll ever do it though.

Chin up and lots of luck from over here xxx

nannyl Sat 01-Dec-12 19:53:57

yes thats just it people dont understand angry

its like... just because you are color blind it doesnt mean you know what its like to be blind....
just because you may have a smear that detects abnormal cells, doesnt mean you know what its like to be told you have terminal cancer

and unless you have HG you have absolutely no idea what so ever what having HG is like........ and it is not comparable to having MS

and breath

rant over!!!! wink

nannyl Sat 01-Dec-12 19:55:44

Reebok i suggest you go and see a different dr!

Reebok Sat 01-Dec-12 20:01:02

Lol you've just said exactly what I've been feeling! Yeh I know I should but the only other doc that is close by is worse according to a few friends who live near me. Got my first midwife app on tenth so hoping I will get better care. Hospital is meant to be good for pregnancy.

Reebok Sat 01-Dec-12 20:04:40

@rooney, thank you. I tried that med last time. Didn't work on me and then they put me on cyclizine which took the edge off a little. Maybe worth a try now though this time round as cyclizine is defo not working.

nannyl Sat 01-Dec-12 20:30:43

My Dr has suggested i try that too rooney...

thing is although i still be sick on cyclizine (was on it the whole 9m last time and still sick every day) BUT I know it does help, and without it i am much much worse... and im a bit scared to come off it, incase the other one doesnt work so well.

In hospital i was always told that it wont stop me being sick, but might stop me getting too dehydrated... well it didnt work last weekend as i was admitted for IV on Monday, 6 litres later i came out tuesday.... but the doctors always stress that it wont stop vomitting, just helps to reduce dangerous levels of vomitting

oh its so not fun sad

Reebok Sat 01-Dec-12 20:36:52

Struggling to take my folic acid...end up throwing it up again. Been taking it at night cos heard that helps but it always gives me an awful taste in my mouth and makes me throw up.

Reebok Sat 01-Dec-12 20:37:47

Defo not fun nannyl...starting to feel like an alien has invaded my body. Miss being me

NellyBluth Sat 01-Dec-12 20:52:52

There are other anti-emetics you can try - cyclizine didn't quite do it for me, I found stemetil better. You can always ask to try other drugs.

I know it feels awful having to take time off work. I was lucky to have a desk job a very short commute away and so managed to work through most of my pg, though I had HG for a good four months, and nausea for the rest of the pg. But this baby is more important in the long run than your job. Be honest with your head about how ill you are feeling, and if you do get signed off take the chance to rest and try not to worry about work.

Try and eat a tiny amount regularly, it doesn't matter if its junk food, plenty of people live on toast and crisps and weetabix for 6 months and the baby is still absolutely fine.

One teeny tiny good side - if you are sick and struggle to eat for most of your pg, you might find you don't gain much baby weight grin I was back in my normal jeans a fortnight after the birth. I know that's nothing you care about now, and we'd all rather than sickness free pregnancies and lots of baby weight, but if I was forced to see a good side than that would be it!

Hope you feel better soon. Use the HG thread for support and keep talking to your GP, change GP if you have to.

GoldenGreen Sat 01-Dec-12 21:00:57

Sso sorry you are going through this. I had MS in one pg and HG in the next and they are so, so different! I tell people to imagine the worst vomiting bug they've ever had and then imagine it doesn't go away within 48 hours - but carries on for months, plus utter exhaustion on top of that. It shuts them up. And they stop recommending ginger biscuits, which is a relief.

The idea of being signed off work is really scary if you never have been before, but there really isn't an alternative and quite frankly your health and that of your baby really is more important - after all, they are going to do just fine without you when you are on maternity leave.

nannyl Sat 01-Dec-12 21:06:50

i havent even attempted to take a folic acid since 6 weeks

no point as i puke them and loose precious fluids as well

for both pregnancys i took folic acid for many many months before concieving, and both times midwives have said not to worry about it, as i have lots built up from having it for so long before getting pg.
I figure my baby was fine last time (stopped at 7 weeks last time) so hopefully so will this one be fine too...

GoldenGreen Sat 01-Dec-12 21:09:10

I agree about the folic acid, nannyl - I am sure it's taking it pre-conception that makes the most difference anyway.

NellyBluth Sat 01-Dec-12 21:10:17

Golden, that's exactly how I used to describe it. It is essentially 4-9 months of food poisoning. If you weren't pg and had those symptoms, you'd be at the doctors on day 4 and they'd give you something!

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