I'm at a bit of a crossroads in my life at the moment - potential relationship break-up, need a new job as the current one is making me very unhappy, nothing is really tying me to where I live currently apart from the past and the future I thought I was going to have.
I'm not 'woo', religious or anything in the slightest, but when I feel anxious about this potential huge life change, I keep instantly getting visions of somewhere I've been once or twice before - different streets and angles but the same general area. I know pretty much where it is within the nearest mile. It calms me right down and stops me getting too worked up.
I'd usually just discount it but it keeps happening, with the same place, and the visions are instantaneous and not conscious. Is this likely to mean anything? Should I be giving this any attention?
It is your subconscious linking up your current thoughts and feelings to a memory that you have of this particular place. You need to think about why your brain is making this connection - is it somewhere that you were happy (even briefly!), is it somewhere connected to a person who makes you happy/calm? What else do you think of when you picture this place? Try thinking about it when you are not actively worrying, and picture what else "goes with" this place in your mind.
That will hopefully help you to understand what it is about that place that you crave. Then you can think about whether you could improve your life by actually going there, or by "recreating" the relevant bits in some other way.
Thank you. It's somewhere that an ex lived, I went there to help him move in and then shortly afterwards we broke up. So I guess it sort of represents new beginnings and letting go. But at the time I visited this place, I was quite happy and optimistic about the future with ex, so it's weird that it seems to be the wrong side of the split to really represent anything in my current situation, IYSWIM. I do remember pacing the streets of this place alone, getting lost there and imagining my future there. I don't know. I guess I'll have to give it more though.
How is your current situation similar to that past situation? Can you draw any correlations from them? Could this be a pattern, in any way? Or, how are the situations different. I think your visions are your soul, you say you feel calm when you get them-would you visit this place and see how it feels to be there?
All I can really think of it that when I was there, I was in a very positive frame of mind. I was mentally planning a relocation, I was very much in love, I was looking to the future and picturing something different to what I had up to that point imagined. So I guess to a certain extent, that's how I want to feel again. It didn't, as it happens, pan out as I wanted/expected at that time - but I didn't know that at the time.
So I guess it feels kind of two-pronged - feeling hopeful and optimistic at the thought of change, yet accepting that what I hope for won't always happen, and that's fine too?
I would like to go to the place, but it's quite a long way away (I live in South London, the place in my thoughts is the Stockbridge area of Edinburgh) and I know rationally that there's nothing really 'there' for me, so it would be a bit nuts. It's confusing!
Oh, there's nothing odd about wanting to relocate to Stockbridge! I'd love to live there
It sounds like a place that is about change and positivity, and you are now experiencing change but without feeling positive about it, and your subconscious is bringing that back into your mind.
It doesn't mean you ought to go there, just that there are aspects of it that are important to you, because you are lacking them now. The trick is to find your way to being positive about the changes, not to relocate physically.
I wonder if there is an element of wanting a reason to be somewhere? It can leave you feeling all at sea to have no ties to keep you anywhere. I say this as i have a good friend in much the same position - she can literally go anywhere in the world and is desperately looking for signs to tell her where she should go. I don't actually think it works like that as it would mean things are predetermined - i think we can go where we like on our own particular journeys. It sounds like Edinburgh was another crossroads for you in some respects, and this is probably why it is in your mind now.
Ah I know, AMumInScotland... maybe it's just because it's bloody lovely!
MostlyLovingLurchers, you might well be right about 'looking for signs' - but that's not usually me, and I totally agree that nothing is predetermined, which is why this is knocking me off my usual kilter so much.
How interesting! When I meditate I often get visions of places and exact scenarios - it's like I could actually be there. What's nice is that a lot of the time mine are of our Honeymoon in Sorrento. I've had a really shit few years and I think it's because that was a time when I was at peace and happy.