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Please pray for me. My husband has been very cruel to me for almost a year now since I found out about his porn addiction and online affairs. We argued on Saturday and he pushed me. I am pregnant again and my dcs are SN. I have nowhere to go and he will not leave. Please pray that I can cope.
Thank you x

Praying.x

I will pray that you seek help from an organisation that helps women like you suffering from domestic violence.

Will be more use than prayers.

Thank you x

oh sweetheart, I will certainly pray for you. I don't agree with OldLady that the Womens Aid website is more use than praying - they're both powerful and work in tandem. The Womens Aid 24/7 support line (practical/legal support as well as emotional support) is 0808 2000 247. Please give them a call when you can and they will help you - they really are the best and know their stuff; they were an enormous help to me when I was in a similar position to the one you're in now.

Have you looked on the 'relationship' forum on here? There are plenty of people posting who are in a similar position to you. I would also recommend the book Why Does He Do That by Lundy Bancroft (you can get it on Amazon) and also please find the Freedom Project, which will be local to you. Im assuming you are in the UK?

It sounds as though you are in a great deal of pain at the moment. My prayer is that you will find your way out of the pain - it may take a while but you will get there. Plenty of us have. ((hug))

Why Does He Do That?

The Freedom Programme

Praying..

you are in my prayers xx

Thank you all. I will call Women's Aid tonight when he is asleep. x

God bless sweetheart xxx

Prayers and keep safe. Both spiritual and earthly help needed for you I think...

Whatever you do, don't believe even in the remotest cranny of your soul that you must deserve this. It is all to do with HIS difficulties. Look after yourself carefully; be as generous (but NOT self-sacrificing) as you can manage. Thinking of you...

You are a mother. Your job is to care for your children's safety. I believe God would want you to do everything within your power to get to a position of safety. I will pray that Our Lady will pray with us to God for you to dig deep and find the strength to do what you know you must do. May the Angels guide and protect you. Do remember though the story in the bible about making the best use of the resources you are blessed with. You must find a position of safety for you and your children. Call Women's Aid, get birth certificates, bank, mortgage details and passports put in your handbag lining tonight, so you can leave at a moment's notice. There are places you can stay. If Women's Aid places are full then you can call any Catholic retreat and they will direct you to somewhere you and your children can stay. Please make best use of this instinct to get help and GET TO A PLACE OF SAFETY WITHOUT RAISING HIS SUSPICIONS. You can deal with anything to do with your relationship properly once you and the children are safe. I will pray for your family. Do not fear leaving, just do it quickly and safely. You can deal with anything once you and the children are safe. Make your arrangements prayerfully and respond to this instinct. It is God given.

May God protect you, heart and body.
May he protect your unborn baby.
May he surround your children with his love and peace, that they will not be afraid and will understand what is happening.
May you have clear guidance and wisdom, and know in your heart what God wants you to do.
May you know his deep, unending peace - that even while your life is difficult around you, there is a centre of peace in your soul.
May you know his unending love for you and your children.

OP - just seen this. How are you? Are you OK? And the dcs?
Praying for your, and their, safety.
Were Women's Aid able to help?
Come back here, or perhaps you've been able to go across to the Relationships thread (the Legal one, too, is good) for more thoughts and support.
Take the best possible care of yourself.

I will pray for you.
I pray that you will listen to the wisdom that God sends through his channels to you.
I fear that you have drowned out God's voice and replaced it with your husbands.
I fear that you doubt God's ability to provide you with what you need.
God has not abandoned you or your children.
God is there for you and them.
God will always be there.
Your husband will not and is not.

Praying that the Lord bring you strength and safety, tonight & in future. Take care.