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Please could you lovely people pray for my two children to be kept safe from harm? Their father is applying for contact to see them, first hearing is next week. He has physically abused and emotionally harmed the children to the point of them threatening suicide and they are so fragile to have to go through all the court reports etc and relive all the abuse. Please pray for my children to have strength to get through this and for them to be kept safe emotionally and physically. Thank you all so much.

Most certainly Westernwind. May I link your request to the Christian prayer thread, so that a few more people see it?

OWW - would you think of putting something on the Legal thread? I've seen queries like yours come up on it.

An advocate for the children? One organization that might be worth talking to is Family Rights Group:

www.frg.org.uk/

There's a helpline - very knowledgeable people at the other end I think mostly for families caught up with SSDs but these guys know so much, they could signpost, I'm sure.

Praying that your DCs are not put through the mill - and that you aren't either.
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Sending out my own sort of prayer and positive thinking to you and your children. xx

done. praying they are kept safe and happy.

Absolutely. You poor thing, you must be going through hell
Prayers on the way x

How old are they? The courts have to take their views into consideration when deciding upon contact pattern. I'm sorry you're going through this. My ds1's father mentally abuses him. It does get easier as they get older if that's any help. Sorry you are all suffering this trauma.

I will light a candle for them tonight.
Please ask for advice on'relationships' board...some very knowledgable and people who have been through similar....what has your solicitor said?
They don't take into account what the child report I know too well
Stay strong for your babies....he won't touch them again but I know you don't want your babies to have to face/be in contact with there dad. It is the 'psychological' problems it creates for them and you even without physical being in the occassion anymore
How far can you go if courts a disaster...you can hop on a ferry to Ireland without a passport...get work register children under different names (don't know if you can do that)...home educate etc....lovely remote parts with lovely people!

Thank you all so much. Hearing is tomorrow and I am feeling physically ill at the thought, been having nightmares and not sleeping. I am so worried about the children and what it will do to them if the court ignores their wishes. They have already been hurt so much and as they haven't seen him for almost a year are just starting to recover and relax when they will be hit by this all over again. Poor poor things. I pray they will be protected as I feel so helpless to protect them myself.

Prayers are winging their way to you and you dcs. Shall be thinking and praying for you tomorrow.
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Thank you all so much. Hearing was this afternoon and we are now waiting for a lot of reports to be done which will take four or five months apparently. But ex asked for indirect contact (writing etc) and judge said no as it was not in the children's best interests. So they are left in peaceful ignorance of all that is going on for a while longer. Bless you all, thank you.

Thinking of you and praying for you and your children to have a bright,happy and trouble free future

I've lit a candle for you and your children xxx

The first point of call for any child is the mother. So ensure you give them the emotional and physical support they need to deal with the problem.

Sometimes seeing the children happy and stable with one parent is enough to sway the heart of the other.