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any one regret sticking with two?

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By Thu 05-Nov-09 15:31:11 Add message | Report | Contact poster

I know its a big issue that many people grapple with but just wondering really. DH and I decided to ttc DC 3 early summer as I felt I wanted one more and persuaded him, I then thought I was PG for a few days and was relieved with a negative test. hmm

We've discussed this over and over and the only things stopping me having two are; money, career, space in the house. I think they're pretty big things tbh and DH feels we are 'done' and feels we should focus on the two we have. Part of me worries I may regret it in a few years but part of me feels the baby bit is too much to go through to get a bigger family. DS 4.3 and DD 2.5

Older women at work with grown up children seem to wish they'd had more but there seems to be an element of rose tinted glasses there cos when I push them on this I get comments like, 'actually I couldn't have coped with more than 2 teenagers' etc. I just wish I felt 100% sure

Add message | Report | Contact poster By Thu 05-Nov-09 21:37:48

I have 4 dc and after each one I told my dh that I could'nt go through the whole thing again. (had ppd aswell). But now I can't imagine life without each one. Though I do believe that there has to be a last wether its 2 or 8, you can only have as many as you feel capable of dealing with.

Add message | Report | Contact poster By Thu 05-Nov-09 20:48:37

I have always been adamant that I only want 2, and deep down I am sure that's the right decision for us, but every now and again I feel so sad about not having another one. You know, all the 'that's the last time I will ever bf/use the moses basket etc etc......'

Add message | Report | Contact poster By Thu 05-Nov-09 20:44:46

I am currently pregnant with DC3 and absolutely think I've lost my mind! Hope when it arrives that I am pleased with the outcome. Right now I think 2 was our magic number too

hmm

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G'wan 50ft - you know you want to wink

Add message | Report | Contact poster By Thu 05-Nov-09 20:14:41

awww congratulations Pooka.

If I was a SAHM i think my mind would be made up but Im a teacher (part time) I really enjoy it and feel Im getting my dept where I want it now, I am honestly reluctant to have the time off again! I think I'm putting presurre on myself as I wouldn't want a huge age gap as DC1 and DC2 are less than 2 years apart it would seem unfair to have over 3 or 4 years between DC3. I definately don't feel up for ttc, just worried I'll regret it, strange old business!

Add message | Report | Contact poster By Thu 05-Nov-09 17:39:41

I didn't stick at 2 but that was becaue I didn't "feel" that I'd finished yet IYKWIM!
Satisfied half way through the next pregnancy that that would be my last and haven't given it a moment's thought aside from a very brief pang when friend had unexpected 2nd child a few months ago and made me wonder for a millisecond whether I'd do it again...but dh soon put me in my place!

Add message | Report | Contact poster By Thu 05-Nov-09 17:37:38

sometimes, though bit too late now. wish i'd had one in between my two.

Add message | Report | Contact poster By Thu 05-Nov-09 17:36:32

Oh how odd, I was just thinking about posting the same question! I will watch with interest....

Add message | Report | Contact poster By Thu 05-Nov-09 17:35:26

No, I don't I couldn't cope with more DC.

That said I get phases where I am very broody and coo over every newborn I see. I definitely remember the baby stage with rose tinted glasses now grin

, and my youngest is 3.5yrs old.

I know in my heart of hearts though that 2 is the magic number for us.

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