We have 2 DD, 5 and 4 so very close in age. I find the older one quite hard work, very oppositional. I try hard not to suggest too many things as I feel she will say no just because I have suggested it. I almost fear being with her as she is much more likely to play up, not do what you ask so brush her teeth for example, get ready for bed etc. She will complain straightaway if the younger one gets something new (not often) and even for younger one's birthday expected her to share everything. I do not and have not spent anytime alone with her and I know this is part of the problem. Aside from weekends there is no possibility.
I feel the younger one is so much easier to love and I feel such a heel and as I say ashamed of how I feel towards her. There is some type of barrier that I cannot seem to get through. I feel on a treadmill that I cannot get off and I do not want to spoil things for her, I am acutely aware of how things must seem to her and that she has an old b8tch for a mother.
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I am ashamed to say I have a downer on my daughter and I do not know how to change it
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no157istheanswer · 21/05/2013 15:09
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