Mums of 3!

(38 Posts)
Ameybee Tue 29-Jan-13 19:53:30

I have DD 3 and DS 4 months, we have always said we wanted 3 as me and DH are both one of 3 and love having siblings. But I have found having 2 tough, had PND and DS not a great sleeper still. DH says he's not sure he wants no 3 and thinks he's too old! (He's 38 I'm 29). Obviously we don't have to make any decisions & I'm thinking take it as it comes and decide in a few years. So what I'm wondering is... Is it much harder with 3? Xx

BackforGood Tue 29-Jan-13 22:27:04

0-1 was just such a shock for me. Sooooooooooo overwhelming.
No2 was a breeze
No3 I hardly noticed. I was so much more relaxed, and have 'enjoyed' her so much more than dcs 1 and 2 when they were little.

ticklebug74 Tue 29-Jan-13 22:32:18

I have found dc3 the hardest but she (at 14 weeks) is an appalling sleeper and permanently attached to my boob. It's hard on the other dc (6 and 4) but time is whizzing by and before we know it she'll be running around bossing us all about.

I am still in the oh my god stage and suffering mild PND and have what seems like an unsupportive husband and we have no family around. BUT I always wanted 3, knew it would be tough, and wouldn't change it for the world. Even through my sleep deprived, toe curling nipple pain tears, my heart swells with love for my 3 lovely dc! :-)

Go for it! :-)

Ohhelpohnoitsa Tue 29-Jan-13 22:35:06

dc3 had been easy for us and has made a perfect addition.
I do think some thimgs change though - we dont really ask for anyome to help / babysit m sleepovers etc butif we did, Ivd think twice about asking anyone to have 3. It's. only afyet a year that I feel happy that dh can cope as it is pleasantly relentless. Do it OP, you may tear your hair out and raise your voice sometimes but you wont regret it. You might regret not doing it though.

ProlificWillyBreeder Wed 30-Jan-13 09:05:23

I'm contemplating number 4 so 3 isn't too bad grin

IrnBruTheNoo Wed 30-Jan-13 10:58:20

Don't just think of a baby, think of three grown up DC who will eat you out of house and home and constantly all need new clothing, cost of school trips (for each of them), pocket money (x3).....the list is endless.

It's all very well thinking with your heart, but how you cope on a day to day basis is much more important than your huge desire to have three DC, IMO. If you're finding it a struggle just now, why put yourself through it all again to impact on your mental wellbeing.

IrnBruTheNoo Wed 30-Jan-13 10:59:38

"You might regret not doing it though."

You can't regret something you've never had an experience of. If you're never raised three DC, how can you regret it?

lljkk Wed 30-Jan-13 11:20:02

Number 3 is my difficult child.
Number 4 is a dream lovely smile. Not sure it was worth getting thru number 3 to get him, though.

Ameybee Wed 30-Jan-13 14:47:43

Thank you for all the replies! Will decide once we are through the 4 month sleep regression which appears to be relentless at the
Moment!! At 4am this morning my opinion on no 3 was nooo way! grin X

thefirstmrsrochester Wed 30-Jan-13 14:54:19

Found 1 was so hard, 2 (15 months apart in age) a breeze, dc3 was a dream. 3rd babies just get on with it. Now they are 8, 12 & 13 it's a totally different picture. Running battles really. I'm from a family of 4 & we fought like cat and dog as children but get on great now.

thefirstmrsrochester Wed 30-Jan-13 14:56:11

irnbru are you my doppelgänger?
<casts sad eyes over empty fridge>

Poledra Wed 30-Jan-13 14:57:27

Another person for whom 0-1 was the hardest transition! DD3 was a fairly easy baby and I was so much more relaxed than with DD1. I definitely let my standards slip grin Would have had DC4 perhaps, if it wasn't for the fact we had some prebirth health scares with DD3 so decided to quit while we were ahead. Oh, and I was older than you are now when I had DD1, never mind DD3!

NatzCNLS Wed 30-Jan-13 21:57:19

I habe 3 DD's 6, 4 (will be 5 next week) and 1. Only 16 mths betweed DD1 and DD2. DD1 was a huge shock to the system even though she was a fantastic sleeper and an all round sweetheart - still is - found the first 6 months with DD2 very easy. Got harder as she got mobile but was more confident as a mother then. DD3 I've barely noticed change the family other than to make it even happier. I was terrified about having number 3 but she has just fitted in so well. I couldn't imagine our family without her.

I was 26 when I had DD1, 27 with DD2 and just turned 31 with DD3. I love having 3 kids and am happy we have completed our family now. Even though DH has started hinting at number 4 hmm - nah ah. grin

AGreenie Wed 30-Jan-13 22:05:49

I love having 3 - wanted 4 to be honest but dh wasn't so keen. My eldest. 2 are close in age (19 months) and the gap between 2-3 is 3.5 years..... Dc3 is adorable, in to everything, so cheeky, not a great sleeper, and I feel like I have no time to do anything even though am SAHM now (after working FT up until mat leave).... Wouldn't have it any other way....

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