So me and MIL always been a sort of diff r'ship: nice to each other in person but we both bitch about other and DH in middle. He is PFB and no one will ever be good enough sort of thing. So my issue is this - when they come I feel like the house has to be perfect: because if it isn't they are older and of the mind set its my fault - even when working. DH does cooking and will help with dishes and kitchen but never cleans or does laundry. So DH announces on tues that mil coming tomorrow (Fri) and he's on Xmas do tonight - so all week I'm annoyed and pissy. I just hate them being here, I'm just waiting for the negativity to start. Growing up it wasn't very clean and tidy at home so I think it's a hang up from this? But I also think he knows he can get away with it - if i said sorry it's a mess but it was DHs turn to clean they'd just do it for him and bitch about it, or rather me, later. So he never has to do it. But also there's always a comment - like poor DH should be sleeping in the spare room to get his sleep - or breastfeeding is making dd too clingy.....So how do I escape this - why do I care so much to be whizzing around cleaning when they come and to be sensitive to any comments re my parenting? Why am I trying to be perfect for the inspection? I spend days of my life angry about her: why?? It's all jealousy isn't it? That I have her PFB and now DD. (MIL so pissed off when DD wants me and won't settle for her - daft woman of course she wants me). How do I get over this ??
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Fed up of arguing with DH over MIL coming, help me break the cycle
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SquidgersMummy · 13/12/2012 14:37
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