I need some advice.
I'm a single parent with an 11 year old DS who has just started yr 7. It's been just the two of us since he was four and he's had no contact with his dad since he was 9.
They did basic 'where babies come from' in yr 6 and I think a lot of it went over his head. This September he started at an all boys school and he's recently started commenting on older boys' deep voices, facial hair etc. We've been talking about puberty and how your body changes but we haven't got to talking about sex because I don't think he's ready (he's quite an emotionally 'young' 11). We have a very open and honest relationship and talk about anything and everything, there's never been a 'no-go' subject and I know when he's ready/curious he'll raise it. We got some books out of the library recently and he glossed over the sex references and focused on the fact that it said that his hands and feet would get bigger first - a clear indication to me that he's not ready to deal with all the facts yet and I will let him lead the way.
My dilemma is this: at Christmas we're going away with friends and their large extended family. One of the family is a gay man who has just come out (in his 40s) and has been very flamboyant and outspoken about everything (including specifics when he's had a drink). To complicate matters this man's son (14) is going to be there too. The kids are bound to talk and I'm sure my DS will have questions about homosexuality (which I have no issue with) but I'm not sure how to handle them when we haven't even discussed straight sex yet.
I don't want to rush the 'sex' discussion just to preempt this but I may have to.
All suggestions welcome.
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OhToBeCleo · 05/12/2012 21:43
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