my son is 2.3yrs and is going through the terrible twos, i split from his dad 3 months ago and we were forced to leave our family home. we are currently staying with my sister and her partner until we can sort ourselves out.
my ds is a walking parrot he repeats everything and today i heard him say a word that sounded like "fucking". i ignored it trying not to draw attention to it. throughout today it is clear he is definitely saying "fucking".
i know Ive slipped up but i am careful not to swear in front of him but i know hes heard other people saying it. i don't know what to do. he goes to nursery and i don't want him coming out with it in front of other children.
please help I'm mortified his father will use this as a weapon against me and i don't know how to stop it. i asked his father if he had said it but he denied all knowledge. its rubbish he does swear like a trooper but i know ill be blamed.
any advice how i could tackle this head on. do i ignore and hope he looses interest in the word or do i tell him not to say it?
eggtimer
Sun 05-Feb-12 19:12:49
Ignore.
Don't swear in format of him. Don't let others either.
He'll forget it soon enough if he doesn't hear it repeated.
agree with eggtimer.
i drive an old big estate car down very narrow country lanes. the other day i met an even bigger bus coming the other way. i said to ds,who is 2.5, oh look a big bus. ds's response - oh shit. 
i know I'm so careful when I'm driving to change a naughty word for a silly word like silly car. but its so hard living in someone else house. everyone is good but one slip up was enough.
its just thing i need at the moment with an obnoxious ex using everything against me as a weapon. no matter what I'm in the wrong. 
Make sure that it definately is swearing....my three year old was saying 'fuck'ng hell' I was horrified, went into nursery to discuss it as he definately hadn't heard it at home. Cue a very embarassed me a few weeks later when Chugginton came on TV (he rarely sees that) and he started singing along to the theme tune, 'fucking, fucking hell, funckington' I had to go in and apologise to nursery!
The rule on threads, back when I was new to MN, to combat swearing was to go into the kitchen drop something messy and then loudly proclaim 'fiddlesticks' or something to give the child a new shocking word instead.
sounds like a good idea I'm going to try it. i know my aunt had a go at me because he kept shouting "shut up" at her. they came home and he said "shut up" again i said no actually hes saying tractor! but he pronounces it as "trac uh".
pranma
Tue 07-Feb-12 15:55:27
We used to tell dc we didnt care much what they said as long as they never used the word 'skiff or skiffing' it wasn't long before local kids were telling each other to 'skiff off' or 'where's the skiffing ball?'It didnt sound 'nice' but better than the alternatives-didn't Princess Anne use the expression ,'Naff off' to journalists?It's quite fun inventing new swear words which are not sexual,scatalogical or blasphemous 
