Dinner parties - a thing of the past? or athing of your class?

(116 Posts)
SpeckledHen Tue 28-Jul-09 14:30:52

My parents had these. TYhey were form,al affairs and my mum went to a lot of troubler. Now I only know of a couple of folk in my neighbourhood who have them. Do any of you still have them and if so what is the format? Have they largely been replaced by BBQs?Are dinner parties, dare I say it, class related?

blackrock Thu 30-Jul-09 20:30:59

Yep, we do, but have changed the name to just spending the evening in with friends.

I make the dessert. DH does the rest.

I pour drinks.

moondog Wed 29-Jul-09 16:05:14

Oh I wouldn't make the bread.I'd buy it.

Another good one in a big paella which looks after itself.

I do a lot of SE Asian cooking too. Peanut sate always goes down well with good rice and zingy salad dressed with nam pla, lime, chilli, brown sugar and coriander. Beansprouts, radishes, carrots, spring onions.

Or Moroccan style, A lamb and chickpea tagine with preserved lemons. Or chicken kebabs in ras al hanout with flat breads and salad.

BonsoirAnna Wed 29-Jul-09 16:02:23

Service à la française means that all the dishes for each course are put on the table and people serve themselves. There can be lots of courses.

BonsoirAnna Wed 29-Jul-09 16:01:00

I have people to dinner rather than give dinner parties.

I normally serve three healthy high fruit-and-vegetable content courses, preceded by champagne and accompanied by a wine that suits the food.

I don't serve bread, or cheese.

HumphreyCobbler Wed 29-Jul-09 16:00:31

think I could do it all except the bread

have never made bread

the salad sounds especially delicious, loads of my favourite things

have an excess of mint growing too

moondog Wed 29-Jul-09 15:54:39

Dead easy too.

HumphreyCobbler Wed 29-Jul-09 15:53:56

That all sounds bloody great frankly Moondog

moondog Wed 29-Jul-09 14:15:08

I'd do......

Gazpacho
Grilled lamb with beetroot, walnut, mint and fetta salad. Good bread-sourdough maybe.
Tropical fruit salad [passion fruit and lime being all important addition]

Margeritas or fizz to start with.
Lots of rose too.

cornflakegirl Wed 29-Jul-09 13:40:47

Russian service is courses. French service used to be everything at once. According to QI, anyway.

pointydog Wed 29-Jul-09 12:41:19

Something I learned on mn, popped into my head. Is it the french way means serving courses and the russian way means serving bits of this and that all at once? Or the other way around.

HumphreyCobbler Wed 29-Jul-09 12:33:12

? <confused>

am obviously not up to speed here grin

pointydog Wed 29-Jul-09 12:30:51

will you be eating french style or russian style?

HumphreyCobbler Wed 29-Jul-09 12:14:08

ok you lot

tell me what to cook on friday

got four people coming and want to impress without looking like i have tried, natch

was going to make veal stew but can't find pink veal

can't bring myself to use the words dinner party, i say come and have something to eat

SausageRocket Wed 29-Jul-09 12:00:57

WMMC - All 3 of my kids have been gobblers so no sitting around waiting for them to finish a slice of toast chez SR

Lovesdogsandcats Wed 29-Jul-09 11:52:19

LoveBeingAMummy I aim intrigued by your dinner parties, dunno why..and the 3 mates who don't see each other very often. You have the material for a decent novel there.

<nosey bugger emoticon>

squeaver Wed 29-Jul-09 10:02:32

I went to a "dinner party" just last week.

The food was served from a hostess trolley.

Dh and I almost wet ourselves on the way home.

We have people over for dinner, very informal though. We have even done 'ready stead cook' type dinners with a couple friend of ours, buying random ingredients for each other <sad bastard emoticon>

Hate the term 'kitchen supper' though, it's very wanky, very Nigella trying to prove she is a normal person.

LoveBeingAMummy Wed 29-Jul-09 08:18:15

Today I am going to be practising mojito sorbet to take to the 'dinnner party' I am attending on sat night, as you can tell from what I'm taking its hardly formal.

There will be three of us so again not normal dinner party numbers but hey more drinks for us {in fact his partner arrives home and then makes us cocktail does that count as staff?). Hes a very good cook, in March he cooked a full Christmas dinner, including crackers.

Bascially three mates meeting up who don't see each other very often to eat, drink and be merry, sat around a very nicely done table.

Astrophe Wed 29-Jul-09 03:19:46

I love dinner parties - love having them, love going to them...although agree with others that the invites back don't happen very often.

I would never say "come for a dinner party" though, just "come for dinner". DH and I both like cooking, like planning the menu - good excuse to try some new fun dishes and put candles on the table etc, and nice to have a NO KIDS event now and again.

Nothing we have ever done compares to the formality of my parents dinner parties though. My Mum used to have them every couple of week - silver, crystal, seating plan,3 wine glasses each etc. They still do it now and again, and seem to enjoy it with their friends, but on the ocassion that DH and I and anyone from our generation have been at them, it all seems a bit stiff and awkward to us.

I guess its a generation thing - we feel happier being less formal, but still 'lavish' IYSWIM, whereas my parents generation feel comfortable with the silver service, and my parents would feel it was rude not to pull all the stops like that.

jemart Wed 29-Jul-09 00:42:26

Its true, I cook 90% of the time but when we have guests it is nearly always DH who cooks for them.

I am always in charge of pudding though.

Mumcentreplus Tue 28-Jul-09 22:47:27

what about a 'Come Dine With Me' between Mumsnetters?..lol grin

Mumcentreplus Tue 28-Jul-09 22:45:38

lol@'well posh'...my mum had many dinner parties with her friends..must have been an 80s thing grin..I would love to do some..perhaps when my house looks less like a bomb hit it..lol

I would to do a 'Come dine With Me' between friends I think it would be fun..

SausageRocket - we quite regularly have breakfast on the terrace (the front terrace, the back terrace doesn't get sun till lunchtime). The reason being, eating even one piece of toast with small children takes an age so you may as well do it somewhere where the birds will clear up and you get some fresh air.

But to answer the OP we have friends for supper I guess about once a month. We have lots of informal lunches as well when people who are around are invited to join us. I like it. DH and I are both good cooks, so why not. It's often the only time I get to eat with my husband!

i prefer to socialise after baby bed time, so dinner parties would be nice.

but not a thing of today....

sit down takeaway and film seems to work better.

I'd love an excuse to get dressed up, wear heels and not have to walk anywhere though!

hatwoman Tue 28-Jul-09 21:37:27

we have people over for dinner loads. but I shudder at the idea of calling it a dinner party. we went to some new friends' house recently and my mum asked if it was "formal". I think I, rather rudely, snorted.

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