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How many times can people say that and what is the best reply We have 1s who's 6 many of his peers have brothers and sister younger than them. My ds has started to struggle at school a little and we have asked a former teacher to tutor him a little now i feel like an outcast as another mother found out and the whole ' well they only have one ....' raises its head. The fact we have tried for another to no sucess!( not that they know this) and feel we need to help our son before he falls behind to far seems irrelevent .....it makes me so angry...

Hi Flowerfly

Don't get me started.

In the same boat as you as we have one DS too and he is also 6.

Try to ignore it. What do they know anyway. I find most people with 2 kids are so desparate to find a play date for one of their children when the other child is at a friends .... because they find it too difficult to spend even a couple of hours with one of their children on their own.

And so what if you want to tutor him ... it's none of their bloody business.

Oh I would ignore them.

Parenting is hard work however many children you have.

I have 2,but 1 is disabled,and though my lovely ds loves his little sis to bits it isn't like having a "normal" sibling,she cannot talk and has unusual behaviour.

You aren't doing anything wrong or failing,each child is unique,sib or no sib.Ignore the smug parents with 2 or more,it doesn't equate that more is harder.

Load of old cobblers,imo

I say it a lot!

I have only one. He is now 8. And has struggled at school with certain things. I am in an environment where nobody would comment about extra tuition though.

In lots of ways I think it IS easier. That is not to say I wouldn't love another.

I have one, in many respects I think it is easier, so I don't much care if folk say that to me!

Perhaps this mother would like to tutor her kids but can't afford to, so would be best to show sensitivity to that, but no grounds for her to be hostile or aggressive. There are loads of parents of one in my friendship group and several others in dd's class. I find this makes me feel that having one child is as normal as having several.