Hello, I hope this is the right place to post, apologies and flames accepted if not! I am new to Mumsnet, so bear with me...
I have a beautiful 17 month old son, who was conceived as a total surprise when I had been with my partner (now husband) for about 16 months...
...we had an 'emergency' but very lovely wedding when I was 6 months pregnant, and things were a "sort of" bliss until about 3 months post-partum when everything seemed to break down...
...to cut a long short, by the time DS was one, we had separated numerous times, and a few weeks after DS's 1st birthday, DH filed for divorce :-(
After alot of negotiations and some lovely friend interventions, we began to have couples counselling, and subsequently have moved house and are all very happy together, in fact I think our relationship is better than it ever was :-)
We are both in agreement that we would like more children, and due to our ages (I am mid-30's, DH is late 30's) we thought we would start "trying" (and by that all I mean is not using contraception, rather than a full-on conception mission!) thinking it would take us at least a year...famous last words...I am now about 8 weeks pregnant, and I feel awful - I am wracked with guilt that I will not be able to give DS enough of my time and love, and am worried this has happened to soon after our, albeit brief, separation at the beginning of the year.
I am worried that other people, friends, family, colleagues etc will all be having similar thoughts, & I feel ashamed that I was stupid enough to conceive again with no planning, and I equally feel terribly guilty that many people struggle to conceive, and I should be extremely grateful for this.
I love DS so so very much, I cannot comprehend how I am going to even begin to love another child in the same way, and I know people do it, but how do you manage with a 21 month old and a newborn??!! (Let alone resuming career as well!)
Thoughts appreciated x
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mrshoneybee · 02/09/2009 12:15
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