Like counselling or hypnotherapy or, well, something ?!
Not for me but a friend. We both have one child and both imagined we would have had more. I am still sad about the extra little person who should have been part of my family ... but I have managed to get past the pain now, to enjoy what I have etc etc.
My friend on the other hand wavers between deciding finally against any more TTC, and doing this, then going back to TTC, then saying "no it won't happen, just have to accept it." But accepting it is seemingly impossible and the pain is eating her up.
Problem is that a few friends and school gate mums have recently announced their pregnancies, some already have 2 or more dc, others are parents of onlies who we might have assumed were with us in the "only" camp. Friend can't cope with it. She reacts badly to hearing news of pregnancy and of course has to witness growing bumps week by week in the playground. She gets tearful and angry about what other people have when she has not.
I wanted to be able to offer some practical advice on this, and hoped it would come better from me because I'm not speaking as a person with the longed for extra child. Has anyone gone down the route of counselling or CBT or anything that was helpful - or is it a matter of time, or just never getting past it?
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BuiltForComfort · 20/03/2013 10:06
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