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Partly thru age, partly thru medical ishoos, partly because DD was such a nightmare to feed that it put me right off having any more!

But in all honesty, I'm so pleased I have one beautiful little girl.

Me too :-)

Me three

I love having only one.

And me!
For a wee while we were going to have another but it wasn't to be and medical complications don't necessarily restrict but certainly deter me from having any more. I've come to love the idea of just having one child now

Ditto

I really like being able to give her one to one attention, especially now she is at school.
There is no sibling rivalry to contend with, so she feels secure and loved.
She still rules the roost though!

And me! It's fabulous for all sorts of reasons

Loved reading this. We have only one and can't have anymore, I was starting to feel very lonely as all my friends are having seconds but will now celebrate that I only have one!

Me too we're only 13.5 weeks in and we already know we don't want any more and that our little guy more than rocks our world

Thanks for this lovely positive message - I adore my one and only too. I would love more, and am in the depths of ivf dark days, but your post is helping me realise that it isn't the end of the world.

Thank you...

Mine is 10, and at the grand old age of 33, I had a hysterectomy earlier this year. Which had the huge benefit of guaranteeing me no more children.
He is my world , in many ways, and by not having another it has lead me to be able to more with him, and support him in ways that would have been harder to do with two

Wifeofdoom I remember a thread in mumsnet somewhere about how people struggle terribly with missing the special time they got with their 1st child, when no 2 came along. That's one thing you will never have to face and it is really special that you and your little one will never have to lose that feeling

I love my only DD too! She is a delight most of the time! We are currently at center parcs and I think having 2 children here would have me bankrupt!!!

I'm glad I have read this thread, we get so many requests on a daily basis to have another - my family is huge and everyone has at least 2 kids, but the average is 3 - I thought that we would definitely have another, id be able to get the feeding right, I'd know which pram I'd have, our DS would have someone to play with etc but actually over the past month or so I realised that I love our family, we have a great dynamic and DS plays really well by himself! I just don't think I could face the sleepless nights, the feeding, the nappies - basically starting from scratch!

I go from thinking 'I'd love a baby girl, with a big carriage pram' to thinking 'fuck that for a game of soldiers!'

Does anybody else get that?

I wanted a football team, but medical ishoos meant that I got stuck with one. And there are soooo many times that I find myself saying, thank gawd we haven't got to deal with anyone else in this situation.

There are some major, major benefits to having just one and very few downsides that I can see. As long as you socialise from early doors and curb your spending (which I don't do, but wish I could and really need to relook at) your only child will be perfect. And think of the positive impact it has on the environment!

Mine has the additional impact of only having a bath a week, no matter what! That'll stop soon (I hope) cos she's 11 now and I keep telling her that she'll be the stinky kid in class if she's not careful! Sorry..digressed. Lovely thread and yes, it is great to have just one child.

Love my one DS too. If I'd married a different man and could have stepped off the career treadmill for a while then yes two would have been great, but for our family, one is just right.

Great to hear your stories, mums!
I got sick of the are you having any more ishoo.
The other thing is I'm 42, and most women of my age have children older than my DD as well as a child DDs age (6). I get lots of weird looks when I answer for millionth time, no I haven't got any more. DD is it...
Can't say I've ever hoped for or wanted another child either. DD is everyone I've ever wanted and more!
The only downside we've found is that DD is not used to the childish and unpleasant behaviour of her classmates. She's had to learn fast how to deal with quasi bullying behaviour..

I would have liked to have 2, but it hasn't happened. I can see a time in the future when I will be completely happy with just the one, although I am not quite there yet. Threads like this help, so thanks!

I'm happy with one too. For a while I hankered for more, but it wasn't going to happen for various reasons inc medical. These days I feel so lucky and am sure that this is the way it's meant to be.

I have an only too and don't want it any other way now. Before having him I wanted 2 or 3, but lots of different factors changed my mind. My DS is 7 now, we have waved the baby days goodbye, we go on days out and modest holidays that I couldn't afford if I had more than one child. He and I are both characters that enjoy our own space, and as we get so much quality time together we have a great relationship.

We have only one and after a mc last October at the age of 42 I decided I couldn't try again. I'm still trying to come to terms with it though so this thread has been nice to read.

I'm sorry to hear your stories where 'just the one' has not been by choice.
And hope having one child becomes easier for you to accept, in time.
I'm one of two, DP one of 5. Although I love my brother I never really accepted having to share my mum with someone else!!!
DD sometimes asks if I'm ever going to have another. I tell her that she is more than enough!

I am 42 as well OP. My son who's 5 has never asked for a brother or sister. I did bring up the subject once with him just to see his reaction, and he said 'no, because I like being just me and you'. So sweet