Happy with one until DS spoke to me today

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Blurry29 Sat 07-Jan-12 14:12:58

Ok bit of background. Very happy family life. Been married 9 yrs, together 10. Have one DS who is 5 and bloody brilliant (even if I do say so myself smile )

It never even crossed my mind to consider more than him, we're a very loving and close family (cheesey but true) we genuinely get on etc etc etc

Ok move on to today, DH at work, I'm pottering about, DS in and out playin with friends. A friend from a few doors down had another friend then up, DS went out to play with them for him to be told its only for 2 players!! (they were playing footy)

In comes DS clearly upset, so we talked about it etc, he then says that sometimes he gets very lonely as he doesn't have brothers to play with......... Crushing blow!!

He got over it and went back out leaving me wiping some tears away!! I feel gutted, this is the first time he's really talked honestly about feeling lonely etc.

Do I consider having another one to help the situation? Maybe I didn't word that correctly but hopefully YWSWIM

Im not sure we could afford another one, we both work (very hard) have kept alot of his expensive baby equipment etc but I don't think we could afford another one in the long run

Feel a bit gutted and confused now sad so thought I would write it all down here rather than trying to keep it in!!

Has anyone else had this experience?? How did you deal with it?

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Ragwort Wed 27-Jun-12 14:59:59

My (only) DS has made the odd comment over the years about wanting a brother or sister but as he gets older he has worked out the benefits for himself (including the financial ones grin), like rolling's DD he is also incredibly outgoing and is the first to get a game going at the park, organise something, join a team etc etc.

There is absolutely no guarantee that siblings get on with each other, my DH rarely speaks to his family, there is certainly no real 'relationship' there and I hardly ever see my siblings sad.

justpaddling Thu 16-Aug-12 09:42:10

My dd asked me to buy a baby brother from Tesco when she was about 3 yrs. Needless to say I couldnt find any on the shelves grin.

She mentions a sibling from time to time and says there is only her and two other kids in her class that are onlies.

I feel for her sometimes but have explained there wont be anymore and most of the time she is very happy being an only.

I was an only until I was nearly 9 and hated my dsis. It wasnt until we were adults that we started to get on but I know so many people that do not get on with their siblings in adulthood and they may as well be onlies

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