Hi Everyone, I am quite new to this board and have posted a couple of times in a short period of time (sorry) - however been having a hard time at the moment with deciding on trying for a second child or not.
- We have one very good quality embryo in storage and we can use it whenever we want.
- DH does not want to use it but will do it for me and says he will be happy with the outcome if it works.
- I am happy with my life at present and do not long for another baby.... but I do worry a great deal that I will regret not trying this embryo some time in the future.
- I do not have time on my side as DH is 43 and says 'now or never' (give or take a few months)
So.... I have searched my head and heart and come to the conclusion that my main motivation for trying the embryo is for fear of regret at a later date. My Mother says this is the wrong reason to have a child (especially when DH is not pushing for it) but I really do feel that there is a strong possibility of regret.
We do have a wonderful life with just one and I believe I could be happy with one if the embryo did not work, however feel like I will never have 'closure' if I don't know the outcome.
My Mum's advice to this comment is simple - 'this is life changing and you need to be grown up about it' (I take this to mean that sometimes you have to live with a degree of regret or uncertainty in life)
I also know that sticking with just one would make DH very happy and his happiness is very important to me.
The decision is, can I live with leaving the embryo alone.....?
This is the toughest decision I have ever made!