Hey all, I am new to this board. Me and DH tried for 5 years to conceive DS through several attempts at IVF, he is now 18 months old and is adorable but very hard work. We have one frozen embryo left (very good quality) and it is eating away at me 'should we use it?'
DH is 43 and doesn't want any more (although he does say he would do it for me) but he says 'now or never' due to his age. I do not feel ready at all, and am not 100% sure I ever will feel that massive urge that I felt the first time. I am just sick with worry that I will wake up in a few years and massively regret not trying for a second.
tbh we love our own lives and enjoy eating out and the nice things in life. We both feel a second one will tip us into territory that we cannot cope with. But then all I do is look at others and think 'well they can do it, why can't we?'
I feel so mixed up by this decision, almost like I SHOULD want another one more. Then I think about the poor little frozen embryo sitting there and I think it will always be 'what could of been'.
We did book to have it put in in January, but I am getting cold feet. DS has agreed he also has cold feet.
I must add that I am an obsessive person so will carry this with me for a very long time, lol - at least I klnow myself eh? I always imagined myself with 2 as we both come from families with siblings, but my Mum says families come in all shapes and sizes..................
any advice would be appreciated xxx
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Amybear · 29/12/2011 22:05
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