hi everyone,this is my first time on this site,ive been going through ivf and five weeks ago i got my dream come true and happy ever after,im pregnent!family,friends me and my partner were so excited after years of everyone around me getting pregnant either planned or by accident.i had my first scan a week ago,i was so excited thinking that nothing could go wrong now,after all these years of waiting then like a drop to hell it was bad news!they said that at some stage my dream had just stop growing,i wish somebody had taken my heart out before entering that scan room.im told to come back aweek later for scan number two but i am told its the same and given my opptions (none that are nice),i decided out of either an opp,let nature do its thing or have a forced miscarriage,to go with number 3 to get it over with,after 6 hours of waiting for my dream to come to an end it did,the pain was so bad and now i just feel empty,so close yet so far!i feel life is just too cruel.im very luck that i have a wonderful man by my side but now we are not close and cant decide when to go for it agian,i would go asap but he wants a holidy and to relax a little,next april seems like a lifetime away.im so so sad,to say goodbye to your dream is just heartbreking!!!!

Hi GorgonsGin and to everybody!

I just had a missed miscarriage too couple of days ago. On my first scan at 6 weeks, 6 days we saw no heartbeat. It was just devastating.

I still find it hard to accept that this happened but I am trying to deal with it. I will be going on a holiday that was already planned.

But I am also thinking about the next attempt. We still have 16 frosties but what adds to my worries is the cost. I hope I don't have to wait till the 3rd attempt but I guess we will never know.

I am just scared that it will happen again. I know I have to get positive before we try again.

Hi Piggypink.

sorry for not responding to you before now. I don't check the thread that often.

I am so sorry to hear about your m/c after FET . How is your DH? Do you have any more frozen embryos or will you have to go through another full IVF cycle? I don't want to minimise the pain felt by anyone who has experienced a miscarriage, but a m/c after IVF seems very harsh when we have been through the physical and emotional rollercoaster and the hormones of assisted conception. The fact that you can't simply begin having sex and trying again the following month and know that you have to go through another cycle or FET with all that entails is very tough. Thinking of you.

Waiting to try again is very hard, but it does fly by. Have you been told to wait three periods before trying another cycle? I had my early m/c in March and now it is July and I had egg collection for cycle #2 yesterday. In fact, as I type, I am waiting for the embryologist to call and tell me the news . I can't believe where the time has gone, because I was so impatient to try again.

If cycle #2 works out, I know I will be a bundle of nerves for the first few weeks until I get to 12 weeks. I am dreading it to be honest.

I had miscarriage too after IVF frozen embryo transfer last June 5 two were put in but ended m/c after 6 weeks.I was enjoying being pregnant but that lasted only 1 week after my preg.test.I know how you feel who went through the same, my husband & I were really devastated and feeling depressed now.I've waited for more than 6 months For this FET coz I had OHSS after egg retrieval on November 2008.Now I dont know what to do next.There's nothing they can do if you m/c at early pregnancy,we've been tryin for more than 3 years now.I really dont know what happen next I am eager to try again but i know it is too soon.Waiting is so exhausting, feeling horrible ................really awful

redzee, really sorry to read about what happened to you. It's completely devastating and there's not much anyone can say to make it better. xxx

hi sorry to hear your news i have been through a m/c.i had ivf/icsi 1st cycle and had one blastocyst stage embryo put back in on the 31st of jan but 7 days later i started bleeding and they said to do the urine test early and it was a faint pink line so went for blood test and my hcg level was 96 they said it was probably a chemical pregnancy and that my hcg would go back to normal but 3 days later it jumped to 400 then 2 days later it was 779.i had a scan they found a sac but my womb was too thin.later that day i bled heavy and in was in horriffic pain the nurse said i was miscarrying.They think i must of had twins and thats why my hcg level went up after the first bleeding.Thinking of you all on here.x

springblossom - I am so sorry to hear what you have been going through It must be a very difficult time for you and your DP. have the doctors advised if there are any treatment options for the fibroid in your uterus which would mean you could have another attempt at IVF?

I'm afraid that i don't know enough about OHSS, but from what i have read, if you suffer from polycystic ovaries there is a higher liklihood of developing the condition, but otherwise, it is luck of the draw and stimms dosage management. As extremelychoclately says, it may not happen to you this time.

I am at Hammersmith Hospital and we like it, but I admit to doing limited research into other IVF units as we did our NHS cycle here and decided to stick with what we knew. It suited us costs wise also.

We are going for a follow up appointment at Hammersmith on 7th April. Privately this time - we bit the bullet because NHS follow was up not until 7 May and only then do we get put to the back of the funding queue for another 18 week wait. Thankfully, my cycle is gradually getting back to normal after the m/c now and I have some EWCM, which I am grateful for.

hello to onionlove and everyone else.

Hi Springblossom

I'm so sorry to hear about what you have been through. I had mild OHSS and had to be 'coasted' for a week before EC so that the levels could come down. I did get pregnant from my first IVF but had a m/c at about 8 weeks. On our follow up appointment the consultant initially discussed a more natural approach with us called IVM, if you google it you will find some more information, I'm not sure if it would be suitable for you or not but might be worth looking into. We decided against it in the end because I think I was overstimulated as I was on a very high dosage of stimms and if they lower them next time and boost them if they need to rather than starting out high my consultant feels that would be a better strategy. To be honest I'm scared to try anything new as I know it was good news that we got pregnant with our first set of treatment and I'm hoping it will work for us with a better outcome second time around.

Wish you luck

Onion x

Hi Springblossom

Sorry to hear the feedback you've had. I had mild OHSS with my first IVF which resulted in my dd. They only had to monitor me with scans. They were very surprised that I got OHSS as I only produced 4 eggs. When we were discussing another cycle with our doctor and the likelihood of OHSS again he said that it is often less likely that you will get it as your body seems to get some sort of immunity from it and on the fresh cycle I had where I produced 14 eggs - but didn't get pregnant - I didn't have OHSS.

Our clinic is the Assisted Conception Unit at Chelsea and Westminster Hospital. We had dd on our first cycle, and as I've previously said, a good response to the drugs on our next cycle but no pregnancy and have just had a miscarriage from a frozen cycle. The clinic has been fine if a little disorganised at times so you just need to make sure that you're one step ahead. I know of 3 people who have had babies at the Lister. The ACU at Chelsea is self funding and cheaper than purely private places like the Lister. ARGC usually tops the table in terms of success but is controversial. I have heard it said that they only accept women who are more likely to succeed to help their figures.

I've mentioned before that I attended a support group held at the Bridge Centre at London Bridge called The Mind Body Group - see here. There were 11 of us in the group and all sorts of options were explored including surrogacy, donor eggs and adoption. We had visits from a woman who had had donor eggs and another who had adopted two children. Of the 11, 9 of us went on to have babies.

Best of luck to you and everyone.

So sorry Springblossom, youv'e having a really difficult time. Just wanted to say that there are lots of woman who are having to consider surrogacy, straight and host.

Have a look on Fertilityfriends website and miracles do happen website, you will find lots of support from woman going through surrogacy aswell as ways to find a surrogate.
Takecare
XXX.