Just did my first round of norovirus as a LP(22 Posts)
Well that was fun!
The busiest week of the year at work (I do Tax Returns) and the 2 year old started being sick on Wednesday morning. He was only sick a few times but of course that meant no nursery for the rest of the week. I took Wednesday off, worked when I could and called stbxh to see if he could possibly change shifts to take him on Thursday (31 Jan so the deadline for all my work for the year). He refused, saying I should see this as a "reality check".
So, I got on with it myself, managed to still get all my work done, and felt pretty good about how ace I am.
Then last night my 4 year old was sick just after she'd gone to bed. We were up until after 1am with her being sick every 30 mins, the 2 year old up and bouncing on her bed, and me feeling increasingly nauseous myself. Finally got some sleep after that, and I haven't started being sick yet but am dreading that I will. This is definitely not a good part of single-parenthood.
Anyone else want to share their stories about how amazing we single parents are?
You are amazing!
Don't get your stbxh's comment about "reality check". Looser.
Message withdrawn at poster's request.
Thanks. He had a chip on his shoulder even when we were together saying I shouldn't have had kids if I wanted a career. I am home every night to pick the kids up from childcare (often work when they're in bed to catch up) and have moved down to a 4 day week to spend more time with them. Meanwhile he says he has to work every shift of overtime he can get (so rarely sees the kids) because I went to the CSA and they're taking 20% of his net pay. I know who I think has their priorities right!
You are amazing I am struggling just dealing with colds at the moment..lol. DD up half the night and I am wondering how I am still able to type coherently having had barely any sleep the last few nights.
And to answer your question, 3 days ago I flew with 3.5 month old DD. I had sort of hoped that some good looking chap would help me at the luggage belt to take all my stuff off but apparently not so ended up with dd in the sling and taking off and assembling pram, car seat and two suitcases on my own! I now feel that having flown on my own I can probably cope with most things as a single parent
See angelelle, I would say you are the amazing one. Being a lone parent to a new baby must be so hard - I was a wreck both times (though some of that was probably caused by stbx!) And flying at her with at that age must have been a big thing. I have definitely found that once you do a few things you find challenging then nothing seems so daunting anymore. When I first split with the ex, I used to dread weekends when I had no "help" - now I find it irritating when he wants to see them (as it's always at the last minute so spoils our plans). I feel so much better about myself now I have something to be proud of.
You nailed it - bloody well done.
Hope you manage to avoid the lurgy yourself.
"Reality check"? What a nob!
My only mistake in the madness of this week is that I neglected to replenish the wine stocks, so I can't even have a glass to celebrate my ace-ness!
Still no puking yet, so have my fingers crossed I have dodged that one!
Aww poor you. It is pants but you do feel like wonder woman once you come out of the other end :P I remember looking after DS on literally no energy at all (when it was at the point where eating was a waste of food...scuse the tmi) and having to make sure he was safe etc before I could be sick :P You don't know what multi-tasking is until you've been ill on your own with kids! And surely if they're HIS kids too and works full time he isn't entitled to say you should've surrendered your career to motherhood! Cheeky git. It's not the 1950s
ooo sounds like he is a gold mine....
.... of knobishness. I need more tales. I have tooth ache and need distracting... pleeeeeeeese
I think I heard correctly on the radio that if you have had noro then you should be immune as it does not adapt like the cold or flu viruses. [hopeful emotion]
we had a bout of sickness last year. ds got it fist, then recovered and dd and I were synchrronised vomitting. hold her hair or rub her back whilst simultateously vomitting into my own bowl. oh the joys!
I had a 24 hour bug a couple of days before Christmas and it was awful looking after the kids while feeling so awful but once I was out the other side I felt so proud of me and of my two little girls that we'd made it through.
Its strange what builds your confidence really!!
Targaryen24 I have stopped trying to apply logic when it comes to him - it's just a waste of time But yes, his whole high and mighty thing about not having kids unless you are prepared to be with them 24/7 rather crumbles now he rarely sees them. But I'm sure in his mind it only ever applied to women, anyway.
Blavkeyedsusan don't tempt me - I have enough tales to keep going all night! My personal favourite, though, was leaving me to get a cab home the day after a horrendous breech delivery (yes, no c section) because I had dared to mention a few weeks earlier than we would need to watch our money as I would not be getting much while on ml (I was the main earner, and he had no idea about our finances). No matter how much I begged him to take the day off, he wouldn't.
Synchronised vomiting sounds awful. I was pretty close laser night, but think it was just the smell of it that was making me feel queasu, thankfully!
even the word breech makes me shudder ..What an ass.
I always end up laughing at the situation once we're over the worst of it when it comes to colds/bugs. That and
I survived noro with my 15 month dd at the start of dec, she was sick for a week!! It was dreadful
Her dad isn't around at all so it was all single handed
Thanks marry. i think we all underestimate ourselves. actually exp texted last night and asked to see dd for the first time since she was born. i said no of course (some notice would have been nice) as we had terrible colds. waited for a reply asking if we needed any help .. still waiting . lol
You are ace
We all had a horrific sick bug last year - first my little boy, then my DD was sent home from school. I took time off work while they got over it - then got it myself. My worst memory is of my 2 year old son watching me being sick down the loo saying "what a lot of dirt"!!!!!! I didn't have the energy to move him away Later I lay in the hallway while they were bouncing around on their beds, slightly hysterical (in a gleeful but nervous way!) that mummy was completely incapacitated!
However we got over it and lived to tell the tale! But surviving sickness as an LP is interesting to say the least!
Well done, Op, especially for getting your work done. We were ill for a month over Christmas - not the brilliant first alone Christmas I had planned! But we survived and I feel a bit less apprehensive for next time now we've done it once.
Reality check? Shouldn't have had kids/career? Splutter!!!
You are well rid. You ex would get on well with mine who has been busily bleating I put my career before my child. On here of all places.....rages!!!
Well done re the sick sounds grim
i have my fingers crossed that you dont get sick.
i am dreading catching it.
Thanks everyone - anyone who has got through a sickness bug solo is ace in my book. magichouse sorry but you did make me chuckle with "what a lot of dirt".
doubleyew - ill for a month?! You are double ace!
piemother - your ex is on mn? Mine hates that I come on here - his best put-down of mn is "bet none of them even have a man" as if that is the benchmark of success! Yours must be particularly dim to come and air his dodgy views here.
booyhoo I have so far evaded it, and we're all back to work/nursery/school today. Fingers crossed we have a slightly more normal week this week. Whatever that is!
Marryinhaste - oh yes - mn is full of man haters naturally but now I see him hanging around on the dad threads and giving advice all over the place on a site he allegedly despises. He also alleges he needs to stalk me on here........(insert v ropey reason). I assume its a weird kind of jealously
Well done. I'm in the same line of work so understand your stress.... They wanted to send DD home from school on the Monday of that week when she was sick, but luckily it wasnt a bug so they allowed her back the next day.
DD 4yo had a stomach bug a couple of months ago and so did I. We spent the day in my bed, taking turns to run to the toilet or throw up! I was so proud of DD that day as when she was feeling OK, she played quite happily by herself.
A week later when XH was supposed to be having DD for the weekend, he cancelled because he had a headache and a temperature........
Join the discussion
Registering is free, easy, and means you can join in the discussion, get discounts, win prizes and lots more.Register now
Already registered with Mumsnet? Log in to leave your comment or alternatively, sign in with Facebook or Google.
Please login first.