What do you do when your DC's go and stay with their dad/mum? Don't know what to do with myself

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My daughter (5) has gone to stay with her daddy for over a week. I'm pining for her terribly, she went on Thursday and isn't back until next Friday.

She usually sees him once a month and he comes to see her (its some distance). She hasn't gone to stay with him for some time

Oops posted too soon!

So I've seen a few friends and been out for drinks last night with some friends, but I'm missing her.

I can't think what I'm going to do for the rest of the week, so could do with some ideas (money is very short).

I've spoken to her everyday and I know she's having a great time, so I'm not worrying about her, just wallowing really.

brightwell Mon 31-Dec-12 06:55:59

I've been a lone parent for 13 years, i used to hate the time that dc were at their dad's. I used to fill the time cleaning, ironing, sorting out cupboards, defrosting freezer & generally keeping busy etc.
My friends were a great support but I was the only lone parent in our group so didn't like to be a "burden" especially around Christmas when everyone seems to be having a nice family holiday time. Have you thought about going to the cinema, or local museums & art galleries are usually free & a great place to sit have a coffee & people watch.
Is there anywhere you can go for a walk? How about a duvet & dvd day?
I remember feeling very isolated when I was without dc, the time used to drag. But Friday will soon be here and your dd will be home. Have you got something nice planned for when she's back?

brightside23 Mon 31-Dec-12 12:42:06

I used to feel very low when my son went on holiday with his dad but now I almost look forward to a week of 'me' time. I go shopping, watch whatever I want on TV, meet up with friends, go to the gymn and lie around reading. All the things I can't do when he's home.

Fairylea Mon 31-Dec-12 12:46:10

I was a single mum for 9 years till I met my now dh (and now have ds 7 months so boom goes my child free time!) .. at first I was like you and was very low and didn't know what to do with myself.... I soon began to enjoy it. I don't know if work but I found a part time bar job great as it meant I could pick up some extra hours when dd was away which kept me busy and the social life was good too...

I also went for loads of walks with my iPod and enjoyed the peace. And did a lot of decorating!

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