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Grounds for Divorce "unreasonable behaviour"

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RandomMess · 05/10/2013 15:36

The only thing I could put down is something along the lines of "lack of emotional support and disinterest in my welbelling for at least the last 3 years"

Bearing in mind we still live together and moving out isn't an option I wish to pursue would this really be enough for a divorce to be granted?

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contortionist · 05/10/2013 19:13

Cite some concrete examples of unreasonable behaviour, But yes, this will be good enough. Do you have any reason to think he'll contest it?

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RandomMess · 05/10/2013 19:15

I can't think of concrete examples to prove this that don't sound ridiculous. He knew I had a hospital hospital appointment, never asked what was wrong?

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contortionist · 05/10/2013 19:22
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STIDW · 05/10/2013 19:46

You need at least 4 allegations with examples and the behaviour you complain about should be during the six months immediately before separation. If you have lived with unreasonable behaviour longer than this it isn't intolerable for you to live together. Because it isn't intolerable it can be said you condoned the behaviour therefore the allegation isn't the reason the marriage has broken down irretrievably and the divorce won't be granted.

It is better to keep the allegations mild to avoid inflaming the situation which may prolong the divorce, run up legal costs and make negotiating arrangements for any children and finances difficult. However the reasons need to serious enough so that it's intolerable for you to live together.

eg Controlling behaviour
Workaholic
Selfish -spends too much time on computer/playing games/sport
Prefers company of friends to that of Petitioner
Petitioner treated like a housekeeper
Lack of interest of an intimate nature
Not helping with chores

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Collaborate · 05/10/2013 20:00

Continuing behaviour can be used as UB, even if you've been suffering from it for years. However if it stopped more than 6 months prior to separation you can't use it.

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VBisme · 05/10/2013 20:02

They can be really quite mild as long as you both want the divorce to go through. DHs ex put down things like "spent a lot of time doing DIY around the house instead of spending time with her", "went cycling with friends", "left her to look after the children when he went away with his friends for a weekend".

If you've got a reasonable relationship then why don't you agree them together?

Sorry you're going through this.

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RandomMess · 05/10/2013 20:07

I guess it's time for the conversation, I would prefer for our marriage to work but he isn't prepared to invest emotionally in it anymore Sad. Moving out isn't an option but I can't bear thinking this is it for the rest of my life without hope of having hope of being cared for and loved in any sort of intimate way.

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HaveToWearHeels · 08/10/2013 15:33

My husband divorced me on "unresonable behaviour" even though he had had an affair, so left him.
Reasons were, I went out drinking with my friends on evenings when he was working nights. I worked long hours and sometimes he did not know where I was (ummm working). I visited my Dad too frequently.
I did not contest, therefore it went through quite easily.

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olathelawyer05 · 08/10/2013 22:40

You need to give 'factual' examples of the behaviour you are alleging (e.g. "on a certain day, he did [this]" etc.).

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