I will keep in brief....
ExH marrying Japanese GF...he has visited her 2x in her Country...she has been here 2x....separated 2y ...divorced few weeks ago.
He is going there in March to marry her.....she will come back with him to live here.
Teenage son resides with him (aged 14.5) other with me 16y. He lives with Dad as changed Schools...so nearer.
ExH just announced to boys about remarriage. They were shocked.
My boy who lives with Dad is very unhappy...he feels it will be invasive and he doesn't know his Dads gf...she speaks limited English...everything is turning Japanese in the home...
He has said he might want to come and live with me ....which of course he could if he wishes to...this is his home as well..
The problems......
His Dad is EA and will do this to my son re: money. He earns less than me so gets Tax credits and the FA for my son. He doesn't support our other son who lives with me. I support both sons.....
He wont want to lose money so will prevent son emotionally....
I want to help my son...I dont want to see him unhappy...he does find it difficult to express emotions.....myself and ex do not speak...he is a selfish manipulative man.....
So what can I do to help?
If my son does end up living with me.....I will have no option but to claim from exH as I'm not on huge wages ..(I'm a Nurse).....This is never mentioned to my boys...but their Dad has got away with a lot...financially...we spit assets...he had most and has more equity in his house...
Will he have to pay as on lower wages?
I just want what is best for my boys....it is a struggle...but to me they come first and I will do all i can to ensure they get the right support as they grow into adulthood....
Thanks for any help and understanding x
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smileyforest · 13/02/2013 08:50
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