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Urgent help please! FIL Discharge from hospital and nursing home

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ratbagcatbag Tue 29-Jan-13 21:19:50

Hi all

I'm really hoping someone can give me a bit of advice before I have to speak to the hospital tomorrow.

I'll try and keep it brief but will need to explain background a bit.

My FIL is 83 and lives at home with my MIL, he's been suffering falls on and off and on the 4th Nov, he fell over and broke his hip, he was admitted to hospital and had a hip replacement, five weeks in as he was slowly getting back on his feet, for some reason at 5 am one morning he got out of bed and fell, resulting in the other hip breaking. He had another replacement and was back on the ward under one to one care due to the previous fall, he was also diagnosed with dementia at this time. He was now very nervous on his feet and generally unable to walk any distances at all, just transfer himself from bed to chair. Around 5am a few weeks ago the individual on one to one observations left my FIL and he fell again, now breaking his wrist (there is a complaint in about this). He's now unable to walk, move from chair to bed and is incontinent nearly all the time, and has to be helped to do everything.

My MIL has realised as much as she wants him home she cannot watch him 24 hours a day and lives in a house with steps to each room and only an upstairs toilet (he does have a stairlift, but cannot work it on his own or get himself to it)

My SIL found a nursing home literally two mins from my MIL's house which is perfect, we assumed as FIL had a lot of savings we would not be eligible for any help and reserved him a place, and he's going to be discharged on Thurs to it. After going to the bank it turns out that most of the savings (over 40K) are in MIL's name, and FIL has approx 17k. SIL rang the hospital and explained, to be told that they hadn't assessed him for needing care home, only carers at home and it would take a while to get him reassessed, my MIL got distressed and has now gifted my FIL £10k so he can still keep the nursing home slot.

I'm now concerned that we are making a rod for our own back, and think we should force the hospital to reassess him for nursing home (which doesn't sound like it's been done) and if it delays it a couple of weeks then we just pay for the spot at the nursing home to be kept open.

So as SIL has sorted this and now realised she might have been hasty it;s left to me to sort tomorrow morning, can I actually refuse discharge until the Community Care plan is sorted and communicated to us in writing.?!?

Help anyone there are probably so many things we are missing or I'm doing wrong.

I am arranging to see solicitors and financial advisers with MIL late this week early next, I just am concerned once he's discharged it will be a lot harder to get everything we need from social services once he's already gone and freed a bed up.

Many thanks if you are still with me, I really do appreciate any advice smile

fridayfreedom Tue 29-Jan-13 23:07:38

In all fairness to the SW she is reliant on what the ward staff tell her and the needs have obviously changed. Sometimes spouses also say they can cope before actually looking at the reality and knowing the level of support available at home. These situations can change by the day .
I would just calming state your case and have a list of questions re what happens next. A face to face meeting may be better if you can arrange this.

ratbagcatbag Tue 29-Jan-13 23:09:48

Will try and organise that Friday. Think it's a good plan, were not going to move him though until we get him reassessed. My mil would promise them the earth as they are medical people and much more in the know that she is. It drives us mad smile

hatgirl Wed 30-Jan-13 01:25:34

the top up has to be paid by a third party as all of your FILs income will be taken into account for his assessed charge. He will be left with approximately £20 a week 'spends' if he goes into residential or nursing care. If the care home the family wants costs more than the Local Authority are prepared to pay then the family (not the person going into care) have to provide the extra.

The social worker does not assess for nursing care - a nurse has to do this (unsurprisingly!). All people should be screened for Continuing Healthcare by the ward when they referred to social services. This doesn't always happen but is good practice.

If a person has not triggered for a full continuing healthcare assessment the social worker would not generally ask for a nursing assessment to be done if the person is returning home, as it would be a fairly pointless exercise. Once the social worker is aware that the intention is now for FIL to go into a nursing home that is when they would request/make sure that a nursing assessment is carried out. This only becomes the social workers responsibility to check because quite frankly, if health could get away with not doing it, they would!

Does your FIL have much of a role in the decision making process or is he unable to contribute much (sorry ... just realised can't go back and check everything that as been written already now i've started writing). He understands and is agreeable then it is a fairly straightforward process.

If he doesn't understand and this decision is being made for him the social worker will also have to make a 'best interests decision' to make sure that the move to that home is in his best interests and isn't going to be detrimental to him. This again may delay things slightly.

The local authority will not refund any money you pay out prior to them making a decision. It is also in the local authorities best interests to get him out of hospital as quickly as possible as if he has been decided to be medically fit for discharge then the hospital can start charging social services for him being there. This won't be the case if no one has completed a continuing health care checklist or if they are waiting for a nursing assessment, he will stay put until these are done, but there is no reason these can't be turned around in 24 hours.

ratbagcatbag Thu 31-Jan-13 17:47:23

Hi All

Thanks for all th advice, thought I'd give you an update.

On weds I rang the social worker who was releived as she was concerned we were making a mess of what we were doing and longer term we'd have an issue.
We discussed lots of stuff, but she'd stopped the discharge and wanted to meet today to do the assessments from the beginning. Initially she thought there was no medical needs and only nursing. Today when we got together she then agreed with me and said with the dementia and the risk of falls there is a medical need, she's arranging a nursing assessment as well and was explaining that although we won't get full NHS funding, we may get a level of help towards one to one. With all the details regarding MIL< she has now been completely excluded as being considered a carer, so it makes it very unlikley that FIL will be able to come home. The only issue now is whether it's a nursing home recommendation or residential home!

Everything seems to progressing well and it's definately better than where we were. The social worker is being lovely (even though we went completely round her to start with) and is being as supportive as possible.

smile

hatgirl Thu 31-Jan-13 19:15:10

social workers get used to families that are quite involved and care about their family member doing stuff like that (right reasons but wrong approach) ... don't worry you are probably by far not the worst family or the biggest problem on her caseload.

Glad you are feeling a lot happier about the situation. I hope the rest of his discharge goes smoothly.

IwishIwasmoreorganised Thu 31-Jan-13 19:39:25

That sounds really positive.

Glad you've met with the SW and feel that she's supportive.

fridayfreedom Thu 31-Jan-13 20:15:53

Sounds good. Deciding whether it is residential care or nursing will be down to the nursing assessment. It's quite straightforward in most cases, so don't worry they will sort this out.
Glad you got this sorted out, it can be a very stressy time.

ratbagcatbag Thu 31-Jan-13 20:20:13

Like I say I really appreciated all the advice, apologies my earlier post is horrendous in grammar, I'm blaming baby brain as I'm 31 weeks pregnant!!
I think compared to where we started with SW which was four visist per day to now reassessing medical need etc we are miles better off.

Only issue now is my DH and SIL need to look at actioning the lasting power of attorney for my FIL as he really isn't good and cannot make decisions etc. This was all put in place years ago, but sad that they need to do it, my MIL is also getting worse and is considering asking them to do the same for her finances too sad

hatgirl Thu 31-Jan-13 20:24:19

ratbagcatbag if at the end of al this you are still happy with the service you have received please let the social worker know even if it is just on a small level. It is such a demanding, thankless job that even the occasional off-hand positive comment from family or an individual can make a massive difference to an entire team's morale.

<completely outs self>

ratbagcatbag Thu 31-Jan-13 20:48:01

I would anyway, I am a stickler for complaining about bad services, so always counteract that by always praising good ones!

I did say today several times I was really happy how she was dealing with it, apologised that she felt she'd been left out by SIL and MIL, but they did everything with the best intentions and didn't know the process, and I appreciated that she was still prepared to help us considerably anyway, even though it must have felt like a snub, which was definately not intended.
She said it was no trouble and exactly like you said, easy to get swept up in it, she also said the ward would happily rush stuff through without her involved to free the bed up quicker smile

ratbagcatbag Thu 31-Jan-13 20:51:05

If the thread doesn't disappear into oblivion I will keep you all posted - it was such a relief to have people who knew about or were involved in the process giving advice.

They have done a Continuing care assessment twice - first was all A's on medical need, however on the recent one (16th Jan) under medical, they have moved mobility, behaviour and somehow his dementia all to B's - don't know if that will make a difference, but at least they've shifted the levels.

hatgirl Thu 31-Jan-13 21:38:12

If FIL was awarded CHC then his care would be free of charge. Make sure you are clear that they are changing the levels for the right reason.

ratbagcatbag Thu 31-Jan-13 21:42:53

From my understanding they have graded him worse now than before, so the levels changing can only help what we want longer term with regards to care.

I was told that it is very very unlikely he will get CHC however there is an element of it that would be considered for 1 2 1 care which she believes he still needs (I think she mentioned aroudn £108 per week) on top of whatever they will contribute once he drops below the threshold.

hatgirl Thu 31-Jan-13 23:58:43

yes the £108 a week will be the RNC (nursing) contribution and nothing to do with CHC. From what you have said i also think CHC is unlikely but you never know...

As are the highest score (highest needs), C is the lowest. If FIL scored A in any * (starred) domains he is instantly eligible for a full CHC assessment.

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