post nuptial agreements

[sevenstarsinthesky]

DH thinks I am having an affair. I am not. He wants to draw up a post-nuptial agreement stating that if I do have an affair, I would not get custody of our DCs and would not be entitled to half his assets, etc.

Let?s live in fantasy land for just one moment. Say I am having an affair, should I lose custody of the kids as a result? As this is fantasy land, I?m only asking as I?m interested in people?s perspectives here as this seems quite a controversial opinion. I don?t agree that someone is incapable of looking after their kids because they?ve had an affair and I don?t think it?s right to use custody of the kids as a threat. DCs are 3 and 1, BTW, so not old enough to decide for themselves.

Let?s come back to reality. I am not having an affair but I don?t want to sign a document stating that a circumstance exists where I would be happy to give up custody of the children. I don?t ever want to lose my kids, no matter what the circumstances and I fear injustice ? with the best will in the world, the legal system is not without its flaws and what if a judge or jury rules that I am having an affair when I?m not and I lose the kids? DH?s argument is if I?m so sure I won?t have an affair, then I should just sign the agreement and by refusing I am fuelling his suspicions.

Posting this in relationships and legal to increase my chances of responses.

[StillSquiffy]

Blimey. If your DH is that much of a twunk I'd be thinking of a divorce anyway. Are you and the kids his chattels?

One of those posts where I seriously hope for sake of the OP that it's a troll post.

[PatientGriselda]

Blimey indeed. I would be saying "Don't be so ridiculous. I'm not having an affair, but even if I were it would make no difference to my suitability to look after children, or their desire to have me around. Incidentally, the same would also be true if you were having an affair, so can we please move on, because no matter what you say I am not signing anything of the sort, and I am getting rather tired of this nonsense."

[cestlavielife]

tell him custody no longer exists - its "residence" and "contact".

tell him it would be for a court to decide what is in best interest of children. in terms of residence and contact.

and dont sign anything.

i he mentally ill aka paranoid delusions?
tell him to go to GP/a therapist....