Hi Hollyfort,just saw your reply on this thread,we've been on holiday.
Getting out is really difficult especially as my eldest daughter is quad CP and as such in a wheelchair and my youngest is still only 18 months.
I've had buggy boards attached to wheelchairs (though technically not allowed to do this . Also i've pushed the wheelchair and had baby in a backpack or sling. It will be much easier again when my youngest is 3 and walking well. For very short trips to feed the ducks or walk the dog my second daughter who is 10 will sometimes push the baby and luckily she's happy to do this.
It's fine at weekends when my husbands not at work though obv.
I get a lot of funny looks and random comments and i do get fed up of them.
I'm so proud of my kids though that i just smile back at people and tell them i wouldn't have it any other way....much to their disgust it would often seem lol
The comment/question i get asked most is 'surely you won't be having anymore now then' i find that the most annoying comment because it's none of their business,i'm not claiming loads of benefits etc and my kids are all very happy and well looked after and loved so i often say 'yeah i think 6 would be a nice even number actually'

I have a ds, 5, and a dd, 3. I have tormented myself since dd was one about having another one - "just one more" - but my husband made it very clear that he was happy with the two we had and did not want anymore. He refused and wouldnt budge. We had lots of arguements over it, he always put forward his reasons which were mostly practical (finance, space etc). We even asked our two dc whether they would like another baby (ok, i asked them) and they both said "no way". They said they were worried that if another child came along they wouldnt be best friends anymore. This was actually quite sweet and really made me sit up and think about the prosect, in real terms, of having a third child. There are a few things that I now realise (though its taken a while to get there). Firstly, no child should be brought into the world without being 100% wanted by both parents (i.e. there will be no little "accidents" here). Also on this point, I think no one person has a "right" to have a child. Me and my hubby may have agreed when we got married that we would have 3 or more kids, but as he rightly points out, that was before we knew the hard work involved, knew the expense involved, etc etc - he has changed his mind and I feel I have to respect that. Our house (3-bed semi) is perfect size for the four of us, if we had any more kids then things, quite simply, would not work so well/easily imo. I am a SAHM and have been lucky enough to have been off since my ds was born, but money is now tight (we have a very nice life but have to be careful) and when I return to work next year when dd goes to school the extra money will be very welcome.

I think the final thing for me was that I realised, after a lot of soul searching and being honest with myself, is that I dont actually have a burning desire for another chil - but I DID have a burning desire to be pregnant (I loved it both times) and to have a newborn. If im honest, over the last couple of years, each time someone has told me they are pg or have had a baby, im genuinely pleased for them but I also felt envious. Now I realise that, in fact its just because the child bearing days are behind me that I felt this way and no matter how many children I gave birth to I will probably always be broody and will always feel a little wobbly around baby news! However now I have identified those feelings in myself I feel so much happier and confident that, for us, sticking with two children is the right thing to do. I love my two so much and happy with our family of four.

Anyway, that was my very long answer to how do you know your'e finished! - sorry! x x

After saying no more when no4 arrived within weeks we decided one more, Now awaiting the arrival of five and six in feb. There will be no more number six means change of car etc and the house will be full. Still trying to figure out how to deal with newborn twins with a 2yrold and 3yr old.

My dh and money decided for us

what is it that makes us want to have these babies?? i just hope the novelty doesn't wear off the kids as they get older or it will be great fun when they are all teenagers. I just wonder how i'd manage holidays with 5 kids under 8 if i had another one, would the other kids miss out a bit?? crikey decisions!!! no 4 is 7mths old and i'm 35 so some time left still, it's a big part of your life to leave behind stopping having babies, i know people say you manage with what you have but i don't want to just manage if you know what i mean.

My fifth is nearly a month old. For the second half of the pregnancy I was convinced I'd never want to do that again yet the memory is already fading! If I was younger, I think I might not stop at 5. However I'm 40 and our oldest is 17 years old.

jo5677 how do you find getting around with the 5 children on your own?, i bet you get fed up with the hands full comments! some people just feel like they have to come out with stupid comments to fill empty spaces!

I have 5 and would be happy to have another but then we wouldn't all fit in our 7 seater and we love to go out as a family.
I'm not sure where he/she would sleep either.
Those are just practicalities though,they don't stop me being wisful about the thought of having one last baby.
I married Mr Practical however and i think he finds that 5 drive him potty enough lol.
I do wonder what makes you feel you've finished,maybe thats 'cos i've not felt that yet..thats worrying hopefully that feeling might come with my youngests terrible 2's she's about to come into !

Hi we have three the youngest was 1 a couple of weeks ago.

I know we are finished because dh has had the snip!

We had a double surprise package too, nos 4 and 5 arrived earlier this year. Love them to bits, but I can assure you it worked 100% for us both as a cure for broodiness.