DP pestering for number 4

(5 Posts)
3plus2 Mon 17-Dec-12 12:59:01

We have 3 girls DD3 just under mo. he is longing for a boy , I know it's not guaranteed but he says 4 is manageable. I'm broke he too has no money now till payday, our house is big enough but I'm just worried financially we can not do it , And I don't want my children going without because he selfishly wants a boy! He is good with the children and helps out but when it comes to bday presants , Xmas presants most is left to me as he doesn't feel they need anymore hmm I also would love another baby but only if I could guarantee I could afford it and they others would be happy . Anyone gone for 4 even when money is tight or would be really stupid?

noisytoys Mon 17-Dec-12 13:04:45

Just remember, if you claim tax credits or other child related benefits, they will soon be capped at 2 children, or the amount of children you have at that time. If you are broke now then I would stick at 3

3plus2 Mon 17-Dec-12 13:10:44

I didn't think of that , thanks noisy xx

Boardiegirl Sun 30-Dec-12 20:01:23

We never considered the money, just the joy and it all worked out for us. Maybe your dp is rite and the kids rly dnt need presents? Can u do without things for the sake of another baby? Lots to thinkabout, gd luck smile

sweetkitty Mon 31-Dec-12 14:16:10

I wouldn't have another baby just to get a different sex. When we ttc#4 it was thinking it would be DD4, we even had her name chosen. Yes DD4 is now DS total shock.

Four is costly, I find we don't take them out as much as friends do, 6 for dinner is extortiate, 4 passes to theme parks etc but I wouldn't change it for the world.

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