Anyone else's heart sink...(44 Posts)
...when the heard that Kate Middleton is pregnant? I realise I sound supremely selfish (and before anyone flames me I certainly don't wish them ill) but you just know the whole bloody nation is going to go baby mad for the next year or so and you won't be able to get away from it without locking yourself in a disused nuclear bunker.
Me. Cried on the way home from work that day then sobbed in my husbands arms when I got in. Crying now thinking about it
Us also. Been ttc for 3 years now.
Us too ...
TTC for two and a half years and recently found out that DH has azoospermia so finding all baby-related announcements difficult.
Hugs to everyone for a peaceful Christmas.
Oh yes, big time here, been on a downward spiral for weeks, the imminent arrival of my brothers third (very unplanned!) baby, royal baby announcement after 18 months of marriage, cousins 'look how fab my wonderful kids are' christmas photo montage arrived today and someone at work, who I was at school with, announced she is expecting. Coupled with trying to work out how to get through our 6th christmas as a married couple without having the children we so desperately want.
Just want to scream, for the world to stop so I can get off, i don't know how to stop feeling like this.
I doubt they would have been trying - they wouldnt have been allowed to steal the Queens thunder during the whole Diamond Jubilee thing. I said to my husband that she'd be pregnant in early 2013, so I wasn't far off.
Anyway, I've been TTCing for 2 years 5 months now and yeah, my heart sank. As it does whenever I find out anyone is pregnant. I hate that I do that, it makes it so much harder. Its impossible not to though, I think.
oh yes, bumps are a real killer!
I just wish there was a way of getting away from the constant barrage of news about it. Then I could choose to read about it if I wanted to but it seems to be impossible to open a mag or watch the news without some comment about it or maternity fashion/names/gender.
I so wish it I was not so bitter about ANY pg announcement (not just this one) but 7 years TTC and 3 mcs and several IVF cycles brings a lot of baggage!
Ah well I hope they didn't need IVF - I'm really not a royal fan but having been there i wouldn't wish it on anyone.
Although I'm a bit jealous - as I am of every woman who's pregnant when I'm not - actually it's the media side of things that is bothering me. It's just EVERYWHERE and will be till the baby is born. Obviously not their fault. But having pregnancy shoved in your face all the while is going to be so tough for lots of people struggling. Dreading the bump pictures - personally I'm fine when babies are actually here but bumps are really painful.
yes i selfishly did too, although my mum did warn me. She said she heard on sky news that it is an ivf baby but at the moment i haven't heard anything else, they prob wouldn't admit it even if it was.( although after going thru ivf myself, if thats the case its nothing to be ashamed of)
I like kate and wills but i'm getting fed up of hearing all about her morning sickness and how terrible it is for her.....thousands of women end up in hospital with it and i bet half of them wished they had the best treatment like shes getting...its like shes the only one in the world who's got sick while pregnant!!
Anyway, i'm happy for them xx
I remember reading something about fertility tests, but then I thought it was a load of crap because it doesn't tell you that much or guarantee anything. Some women can get pregnant at the drop of a hat, but carrying to term is another issue.
Who knows, they may have been TTC since their wedding last year- a good 18 months at least. It is curious how people said they don't want to upstage the jubilee year by having a baby, it is amazing timing that it comes at the end if the jubilee year. Obviously it's not that easy to plan these things...
I'm pretty sure she had fertility tests before they got married, can't remember where I read that...
I'm not ttc but I had two miscarriages last year and have been told I've almost definitely got PCOS, so, although I'm happy for them as I would be any couple, I will admit to feeling a bit teary with jealousy and a bit bitter.
If I told anyone in real life that, I would feel stupid.
It's not the announcement that gets people so much as it will be constantly discussed now for the next year.......especially as she seems to be having such a rough start. I do feel for her, especially as they seem to have been forced to make the announcement. But I do wish that the media would shut the F&*k up about it.
I feel a bit funny about this, because when they got married, I thought...I really, really hope they don't have a hard time conceiving, because there's so much pressure on them to produce children.
All the baby coverage in the press does hurt and of course I wish it was me that was suffering from all that morning sickness but at least no mags are going to write stories about me not getting pregnant despite having been married for 4 years.
Also - someone upthread made a good point that it might not have been easy for her. They've been married for, what, 20 months now, who are we to know that they haven't been trying for almost that long?
But when you're infertile I think your heart sinks a bit when anyone announces their pregnancy.
My heart sank, but more for a close friend who has been TTC for over 3 years, she had mc last year. We went out with some close girlfriends last night & WillKat baby was the dominant topic of conversation.
She seemed ok then broke down on the way home, I felt so :-( for her.
I was also feeling sorry for myself as OH is umming & ahhing about the whole having a baby thing & I'm scared because I'm nearly 35 and want to star TTC.
The news made me go a bit green with envy. Glad I can get that out on here, if not in real life
very happy for them. its lovely news... but it did make me wobble. been ttc since may 09 and its pretty gutting when you hear about, yet another person with wonderful news. and its not like we're going to get a break from it either
Just dropped in wanting to send (((hugs))) to all who are ttc and having that kicked in the guts feeling.
Message withdrawn at poster's request.
me too! im 100% bitter and dont ashamed to admit it! Yes im pleased for them and wish them the best for the pregnancy but i think what is going to annoy me the most is the constant reports daily on what is happening - there will be no escaping it!! Even Mumsnet home page is plastered with it. I dont need any further reminders that we are facing IVF after 21months TTC our first and the perfect kate and william get their dreams given to them on a silver platter. We have an appointment with a fertility clinic today and i have already broken down about it 3 times!
I am really pleased for them BUT a simple announcement was fine and now we don't need to hear a single word until the birth. I can't stand all the next few months if coverage if it was like last night!
One of my first thoughts when I heard the news was about how hard this would be for couples who are having fertility problems.
I now have two adopted children after 10 years of fertility problems but I'll never forget that sinking feeling you describe OP.
Good Luck to everyone on their journeys to becoming parents.
I'm quite glad I live abroad so I won't be forced to see this stuff on the news and on the front pages.
I very much doubt that they've been trying a long time, they wouldn't have wanted to overshadow the Queen's jubilee celebrations by announcing a pregnancy.
I do understand how you all feel (took nearly two years to conceive DS and several mcs) but you don't actually know that she or anyone else has conceived easily.
I'm with you all! I'm happy for them both but it does serve as yet another reminder that we're not managing what others find to be so easy!
We will now share the joy of her ever-growing bump over the next seven months!
Yes, my heart sank. I wish them no wrong but I have dreading the announcement ever since someone asked for an Olympic royal baby on the morning of their wedding. TTC seven yrs with three mc under my belt and everywhere I look/read/hear is just about baby news when i normally avoid all baby and pg related stuff as it is so painful. It's going to be a very long seven/eight mths and then the press will start asking for baby no.2!
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