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Do five year olds work out that they are goths all on their own?

Anyway op you sound pretty confident in it all really, and I suspect you won't get too upset by any comments from family in the long term... Good luck, and just enjoy her.

Oi Britta! I'm stalking you! Curry order please!

Thanks Signy :-)

Hi I am Sieglinde's goth daughter, Signy.
Of course, gloom isn't necessarily a sign of gothyness, but I think she might need some goth guidance. I would recommend Gothic Charm School and The Ultimate Goth Guide. Of course one has to do some advertising for oneself: my blog for babybats (little goths), Calling Cards and Combustibles.
In school, let her read the real Wuthering Heights for English and after that maybe Dracula. For biology, yes, dead things, and dissection. Let her write gloomy poetry if you have to but don't let her post it on the Internet.
Outside of school, if she likes dolls and toys buy her Living Dead Dolls or Vamplets. Allow her to do gothic creations and stuff.
The most likely thing is that she will grow out of her gloominess. Don't tell her this though.
Signy xxx

To be honest I think sometimes as a home ed parent you need to put up your boundaries and tell other people to mind their own damn business.

Your dd sounds cool. I was a geeky, different kid and an introvert. I got treated like I was broken and needed fixing my entire childhood. Her quirks will likely become her strengths.

A five year old Kate Bush fan, I want to be her best friend and go round Whitby with her!

Sorry, nothing practical to add, buy you DD sounds an amazing little soul [hsmilie] a mini version of my 12 year old Goth

Good luck with the HE,

a day looking at dead things then queuing for the bus sound like a great day out to me

I should add, she 'plays' keyboard or ukelele, and puts her baby sister on drums or tambourine...

I think she would get on with your dd, Tyrannosaurus...

' oh, when you are lonely it is very sad, everyone else has friends, you don't have any friends, but I know what you must do, you must be strong and then you will be HAPPY!'

She is working on a songbook with her 'lonely songs' in

Your dd sounds like a younger version of my dd1, she is 8 and just finished her 1st half term of HE. It's going really well, she is free to pursue her fascinations (muscles at the moment) and dress like a miniature cyberpunk (Christ knows how, with a wardrobe full of Mini Boden) but she is much more upbeat and positive than she was at school. No more tuneless dirges about my wrongdoings, accompanied by her sisters on viola and drums!

She sounds cool.

Almost :-D

Isabella :-)

Marianne Catherine Isobel (massive Leonard Cohen fan here).

Her initials are M C I

Maybe all girls go through a stage of goth, dd has asked to have her name changed to Wednesday, as she thinks she is fun. I'm not sure if she'd have considered this at school.
I think school can crush a childs spirit and discourage individuality.
The school dd went to didn't do this but didn't do much to encourage them neither.
Other schools that ds's attended certainly did, the kids were all sheep.

is Grace a goth name then? cool.
i have a goth Grace (hence the knowledge of Monster High)

as an aside...I have the perfect toy for her.....Monster High dolls!

they are kind of Barbie goes Goth

Sorry seeker, I don't think I can do that...



P.S. Let it wash over you!

Your little girl sounds fab. Nancy? My absolute fave.

Would you like her initials, or is that too much of a clue?

I bet it's Agnes.................

Collager- please, please can we have a thread where you don't go on about school completely crushing children's spirits and individuality? Please? It's really not helpful.

I mean one of tge six :-)

Seeker - one of those names is correct...

Loving your daughter's spirit!

But you may find after a while at home ed she may not want to act like a goth - it may be her way of expressing how she feels whilst incarcerated in school. If its not then spare her the grief of school peer pressure and not fitting in.

My son has been asking to have his hair dyed and a Mohican for years. When he asked the other day if he could I said yes and he was shocked. He came to me later that day and asked me to cancel the hair appointment!