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ARGH fuckity fucking fuck. fucking bollox

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PavlovtheCat Sat 26-Jan-13 08:30:22

I am laying on the sofa in agony. My back has 'gone' having stupidly decided to tidy the house in order for a 6 yr old boy to come for tea with DD, just in case his mother stopped for a coffee when she came to collect, having never been here before (and having a humungous beautiful house herself). Did she stop? no she didn't. make some lame excuse and disappeared with her DS.

So, for a pretty pointless reason other than my own pride which was not even noticed, I put my back out completely and utterly. On thursday evening. I have tried since then to get the pain and spasms under control and I simply can't.

DH has just left for the weekend to got to a stag do, DS has a stinking flu bug (he is 3) and luckily is feeling better today, but last night had a fever of 40 and was only reducing a little with meds. luckily he is now through that and although grotty, feeling much more perky with medicine. DD is snoty, cracked lips, but stoic and 'caring' for mummy.

The kids are well-behaved. Thank goodness we have a laptop, an i-pad, a Nintendo (which i didn't want DD to have) and an abundance of mostly scratched films to watch. Two of my friends are coming over this afternoon to help with the children/let me rest take valium but for now:

FUCKING HELL IT HURTS! And I can't even reach my coffee.

there. that's it. <lays back and sulks>

PavlovtheCat Sat 26-Jan-13 08:33:09

And. I don't even swear like this normally. THAT is how bad I feel.

hopefulgum Sat 26-Jan-13 08:35:56

Oh, you poor thing. I hope the valium helps. Any chance you might see a chiropractor,or doesn't that help?

I have no answers, but you do have my sympathy, especially with DH off having a lovely time.

I hope you feel better soon.

PavlovtheCat Sat 26-Jan-13 08:45:48

hopeful unfortunately, dont think a chiropractor can really do so much in an 'acute' episode'. and saturday will cost a fortune. V won't really help as I need to take is 3 times a day at 5+mg for like 3 days, and I took one lower dose yesterday with just me and DS as DD was at school and DH at work, then 4mg twice when DH got home, hoping to see an improvement today. But no. I can't stand without a muscle spasm. I can't move without crying in pain. And I can't take any valium til friends get here as I have both the children. Yesterday DS was poorly enough to sleep with me. And, no point taking 2-4mg for it to not work, seeing as it's addictive. I will reserve it til I can take it properly so it works as a muscle relaxant.

PavlovtheCat Sat 26-Jan-13 08:49:18

what I mean by the rambling post is it probably won't help as much as I would like, but it will let me feel a bit less bothered.

I wish DH had not gone on this stag do. Of all the fucking weekends for my back to be like this. And, monday/tues I had stinking bug, so not at work, not at work yesterday, as DS was poorly (although would not have been in anyway due to back) and this means I won't be in work again for at least one more week.

PavlovtheCat Sat 26-Jan-13 08:52:06

and now I need a piss. Badly.

PavlovtheCat Sat 26-Jan-13 10:27:20

more swearing.

my friends are not coming. my choice. friend is in early stages of pg and ds has what seems to be flu, so dont want her to get it. absolutely the right decision, i cant expect her to put herself in a risky position.

but, it leaves me completely up a tree!

my children are watching anastasia, followed by bartock the magnificant, followed by beans on toast followed by fern gully, fern gully the second one, tarzan...see a theme...

Annianni Sat 26-Jan-13 10:33:14

You need volterol tablets.
My back goes like that and they are the only thing that works for me.

I went from hugging the wall, unable to move and in tears, to walking normally in an hour.

bubblybottom Sat 26-Jan-13 10:43:20

The last time this happened to me(last feb) I was carted off in an ambulance on gas and air. 2 days running!! Morphine in hospital..

headlesslambrini Sat 26-Jan-13 10:50:32

if you have to get up then think about anything you might need whilst you are up eg glass of juice, packet of biscuits etc,

When mine goes on me the doctor keeps telling me to get up and move around so I don't stiffen up - not a fucking chance in hell!! I rest, rest and rest and I find that I get better faster rather than moving around. I have a lovely big sofa and just veg out on that with a duvet over me, the DC's usually bring me a bell to ring if I need anything which they usually ignore hmm I have also been known to sit in my car as is has heated seats and that also works, have you got a hot water bottle which you can use?

PavlovtheCat Sat 26-Jan-13 11:14:46

bubbly i have been there. Not actually gone to hosp, but really should have. Probably yesterday, should have. today, I can walk, in tears, slowly, holding onto walls and bent over, but walk neverheless, rather than crawling. yes, i have a wheat wrap.

anni I am taking diclofenac 3 x day permanently (thats voltorol? i think)

Norem Sat 26-Jan-13 11:58:55

Pavlov do you have a diagnosis for ths back pain?
Is there any way your own gp could see you today? Probably not I would imagine.
Could you ask dh to come home, you are really not fit and I am a bit upset for you that he went sad

tribpot Sat 26-Jan-13 12:06:20

Agreed - he may not have appreciated how much pain you were in but do you honestly think you would have gone away for the weekend and left him with the dc when he was feeling this rotten? I think it is fair to ask him to come back.

bran Sat 26-Jan-13 12:12:54

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

clam Sat 26-Jan-13 12:28:47

Your dh WENT AWAY ON A JOLLY leaving you like this?!!!! shock

If you can get to your laptop, I'd be researching solicitors re: divorce proceedings.

<<not much help, sorry>>

But you do have my sincere sympathies though. I'm recovering from surgery last week,after a badly-broken leg so am pretty immobile too. My kids are teens though and have been able to help, although as luck would have it, both they and dh have all gone down with a horrid flu-virus, so we're dependent on friends and family helping us out with meals, shopping and dog-walking. It's a nightmare.

piratecat Sat 26-Jan-13 12:32:55

get some cold on it op, something frozen. i can't imagine how you are coping you poor thing, mine went about ten yrs ago and i will never forget the agony.

clam Sat 26-Jan-13 12:36:53

Can you phone your doctor for a telephone consultation to see what else you can take and call on a friend to pick up a prescription for you? Dh has a man-drawer stuffed with useful painkillers (Tramadol, dihydrocodeine etc..) that he's been given after surgery, and if you can at least anaesthetise the pain (without feeling too groggy, as you're in charge of kids) you might be able to relax and perhaps click it out of spasm. Or at the very least, move around a bit.

QuickLookBusy Sat 26-Jan-13 12:36:54

You need to get some help, if a friend or relative can't come, you're DH needs to come home.

You are in agony and shouldn't be left to deal with 2 young dc on your own.

BeaWheesht Sat 26-Jan-13 12:46:08

Mine did this 3 weeks ago. I needed a diclofenac injection - I have never know pain like the spasms - I've had a 9lb+ back to back induced labour And it was a piece of piss in comparison!

clam Sat 26-Jan-13 12:49:39

I'm still shock that your dh went away and left you like this. Do you think you're safe, or rather are are your kids safe, in this situation? If not, get your dh home NOW.

PavlovtheCat Sat 26-Jan-13 12:56:06

noren yes I do - torn/prolapsed l5/s1 lumbar discs, unstable spine due to sever dehydration of the 'sick' disc and it's probably trapping a nerve, add to the mix something or other to do with facet joints and that just about covers it. just finally been put on a 12-15 waiting list to talk to a neurosurgeon about removing disc (partially) and spinal fusion.

And to be (a little bit) fair to DH. Although he does have a clue how much pain I am in, and that DS is poorly, we had plans to deal with it. It just so happens my friend had a positive PG test today, and now we know, I would not put her in that position. We suspected she might be yesterday, but DH would not have considered those things. If we had absolutely no-one to rely on he would not have gone I am sure. I will need to get someone to help, even if they can take DD out for a few hours as she is lumped with all this crap, just made her own sarnie sad

He is paintballing so not in communication right now. And bloody miles away. With no car. I have it. And it's a good job as I think DS might need to see GP too, his temp is too high for my liking (i will post about that seperately).

What A Fucking Disaster - All At Once!

No point me seeing a GP, I have everything that can be done - tramadol, diazepam, anti-inflammatories, paracetamol (my friend dropped some in the letter box for me) hot wheat wrap, it just so happens I can't take more than the basic level of tramadol, and no diazepam while DS is so poorly. I need to be able to drive (even if it bloody hurts). A GP can't do any more than that if he came to see me.

chocolatelime Sat 26-Jan-13 12:56:08

My DH has found a Tens machine to be very helpful with his severe back pain. I bought it from Ebay for £25. He also uses a back support.

Drug-wise he is on a scary cocktail. He has found Diclofenac suppositories and Amitriptyline very effective. He also takes 600mg Pregabilin daily to name but a few.

Hope that you start to feel better soon.

PavlovtheCat Sat 26-Jan-13 12:58:01

clam yes they are safe now. I have not taken the painkillers I would normally take. I am in a lot of pain, and fed up and frustrated, but, if I need to move, I will. I promise if it changes so I feel they are not safe I will take action.

That is not to say I won't be calling DH to get himself home this evening instead of staying overnight. I may well still do that.

PavlovtheCat Sat 26-Jan-13 12:59:35

choco yes, I have been on amytriptiline. I had gabapentin too. but both those drugs made me unable to function at all so I stopped. I have pregabalin in the drugs box, but I have not been brave enough to take it due to how the other stuff made me feel, and I gave them both good shots (5 weeks)

PavlovtheCat Sat 26-Jan-13 13:01:17

bea I often likened the level of this pain as similar/worse than labour pain. I laboured in the back too and it is very similar type of pain.

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