FD age 15 has been with us 3 weeks now. She has a very chaotic background including drug misuse and serious self harming and persistent absconding.
Up until now we haven't had any problems and she has fitted in really well with the family.
Last weekend she asked if she could have a friend to stay and I agreed. All seemed to go well with that.
I have a DD age 25. She rang me this morning to say that DFD has made DD a friend on facebook. DD has seen a picture of DFD in her bedroom with the friend drinking a bottle of Baileys and a bottle of Champagne.
DD, knowing I had a bottle of each left over from Christmas rang me and told me to check the cupboard where they were. Sure enough they were gone.
I left it a few hours then asked DFD very casually if she had taken them. She (very convincingly) denied all knowledge.
I told her I knew no one else in the house would take it and I would hate to be lied to. She still denied it so I left it there.
So the options as I see it.
Say nothing - I now know she is a convincing liar. I move anything valuable and don't trust her. If she is daft enough to post on FB thinking my DD wont tell me I have what could be a valuable tool in tracking what she is getting up to. I know that is devious but this is a very troubled girl who is struggling to stay off of drugs etc.
Wait until she asks for her pocket money (I give her £30 a week) and then deduct the cost of the alcohol and tell her how I know. If I do that she will probably de-friend DD.
Tell her I know and that I am very disappointed. Then give her a second chance letting her keep the pocket money. She could have been persuaded by the friend to do it and maybe she needed to show off a bit.
Or, do any of you wise people have any better ideas.
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Teenage fd has stolen alcohol from us. Not sure what course of action to take.
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LaurieBlueBell · 09/02/2013 12:17
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