I'm donating my eggs

[Dustbunnies]

I'm sorry if this is the wrong place to post this, I just wasn't sure where would be the best place to get some support/reassurance while I'm going through the donor process.

So after thinking about it for a really, really long time (over three years!), I've finally made the decision to donate my eggs anonymously. There are a number of factors which have lead me down this path, including seeing friends go through infertility, speaking to others about their experiences using a donor, and mostly just feeling so very, very grateful for my own daughter and utterly heartbroken for all the people out there who desperately want a child but are struggling to conceive.

I feel like my heart is definitely in the right place with this, and I know I've really thought it through and it's the right thing to do. I've been matched with a recipient, and I'm genuinely so delighted to think that, all going well, she might be pregnant in time for Christmas.

However, I've just done my first injection tonight, and I think the reality of the medical procedure I'm going to be putting myself through (for a total stranger!) has started to sink in. Are there any others out there who have been through the same/a similar process, who can give any words of encouragement or reassurance? Or maybe anyone who has used a donor egg themselves, who can remind me exactly why I'm doing this when I start to have a wobble?!

Hey! This is a totally reasonable place for you to post this, and welcome.

So, I'm currently pregnant with a donor egg pregnancy. Egg donation an amazing, wonderful thing that someone has done for me - and, more to the point, for that future small person who wouldn't have been able to exist otherwise.

I've also previously been through IVF using my own eggs, so I've done all the injections and retrieval and so forth myself, too. And it's scary! Ultimately I found it manageable, but it's definitely a big thing.

If you decide you can't do it, that would be absolutely okay. You don't owe anyone your eggs. It would be absolutely fine to change your mind. But if you keep going with it, then you're giving someone a wonderful thing which they will be immensely grateful for.

Best of luck to you, whatever your path. You sound brave and thoughtful and awesome!

Hello! Just came on to echo the PP! What an amazing thing you’re doing for someone, really amazing to help a stranger!

I’ve also been through a couple of rounds of IVF and so have been through the injections and scans and so on. I think the very first one is scary - but you’ve done it now and I’m sure you rocked it!! I used to do my 3 injections a day at 6am with a cup of tea and the news on - then get up and going with my day.

We now have a donor who will be starting her treatment in the next few weeks for us - anonymous too - it blows me away every time I think of her doing this to help us have a family. Truly special and you are too for even contemplating it let alone doing it!

Good luck with it and stay strong - whatever it is you decide to do!

Thank you both so much for your words of encouragement, they mean a lot honestly. It's also so nice to hear it from the 'other side' so to speak, congratulations on your pregnancy @Persipan and I wish you all the luck with your donor @TheGlitterFairy!

I'm definitely far too committed to this now to back out, it's taken a lot of soul searching to get to this point and decide it's definitely something I want to do. I did the second injection tonight and it was so much easier, so fingers crossed it's a breeze from now on!

When we conceived using donor egg and donor sperm after 16 years of IVF costing us about £50k in total, I posted on here thanking all donors

Unless you’ve been in this situation, you’re clueless about the financial, emotional and physical impact it has on every aspect of your life.

We can never thank you or our donor enough. There aren’t enough words. Our smiles aren’t wide enough and our hugs aren’t tight enough.

We genuinely appreciate the impact it has on your body and that you would not have taken this decision lightly.

So, from the other side....we are thanking you for giving someone who has been robbed, the chance to experience the happiness we get to live every day now.

You’re an angel xx

Are you in the UK? It's not anonymous in the UK, the child conceived has the right to find out if she/he chooses to do so.

I was an egg donor, albeit for my sister so different circumstances really. But on the medical front, you do get used to all the jabs and stuff. Tbh by the end I was quite uncomfortable and a bit fed up with all the blood tests etc, but I suspect that was because her clinic was a long, long way from my home so I was away from dc for a week, which was of course a small price in the scheme of things but it did add to my fedupedness. For the actual extraction I think I had a 'waking anaesthetic' if that's the right name, so not a general or local. I reacted quite badly a few hours later so make sure someone is with you. But all these slight negatives are vastly, vastly outweighed by the potential you're offering someone.

@dontalltalkatonce - by anonymous I mean I'm doing this for a stranger, rather than for a friend or family member.

Uncomfortable is exactly how I'm starting to feel now, my tummy is super bloated and tender. The collection will hopefully be happening on Wednesday though, so not much longer to go!

@Neighneigh - when you say you reacted badly to the anesthetic, what happened?

Thanks again for all the kind words folks

Hi Dustbunnies was just re-reading this again and wondered how you’re doing? Hope all went well with your cycle x