Sounds ridiculous, doesn't it? But my life is not fun. I used to be fun to be around and am not anymore. DH used to go out, see friends, have a life outside the two of us and so did I. He is depressed and has not been out socially for years. It is not that he particularly wants to spend time with me, it is just that he does not care about seeing friends or doing anything fun anymore.
I am so unhappy. But he tells me that I am lucky, that other men go out to the pub every night. I have tried to explain that there is a balance. I WANT him to go out. I want some time to myself, and I want to think that he is enjoying himself. It is draining being his only point of contact outside work. He says he doesn't feel like going out because he works so hard but I don't think it is true, I think he just doesn't care. If I go out, maybe once a fortnight and see friends, he points out that he is always at home with DC. As far as I can see, this is a choice he makes.
We have DC. So is it totally selfish and irresponsible to divorce just because I want my life to be fun? And I know that when you have children your priorities change, but I want to be with someone who can enjoy themselves, not just having fun myself.
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Is it totally irresponsible to get divorced just because life isn't fun?
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quickquestionplease · 31/05/2012 15:37
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