Right - I've got my planning head on tonight! On the basis that I don't think H will leave the family home, I think I will have to be the one to go (can afford 6 months rent - just!). I want to make sure that my DCs can come with me (15 and 10) although happy for there to be decent level of contact, particularly for DS. Can anyone tell me what might define one parent being the main carer and therefore would it be acceptable for me to expect to be able to leave and take DCs with me?
Background info - H was a SAHD until 2007 when he started a part time job. I was full time until Feb this year. I went part time then and started doing school picking up (always did drop off in the mornings) but I have now given up work completely and intend to do some freelance to fit in better with DCs school times and holidays. For the last 3.5 years I have cooked all main meals, done weekly food shopping, managed the household and all budgets, taken responsibility for DCs health (dentist/doctors etc), taken DCs shopping for clothes, arranged haircuts etc. H still gets the child benefit in his name (which we did when he was a SAHD because of the NI being paid) but I've just made an application to change this.
I'm petrified that someone somewhere would say H is main carer because in theory as he works part time he could still pick up DS from school.
Can anyone help reassure me?
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What defines a primary carer?
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backtothedrawingboard · 04/09/2011 19:51
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