A sex question for you, guys

(6 Posts)
BandOfMares Tue 20-Nov-12 16:58:08

Been with a bloke for 4 months. In the beginning we had sex A LOT (like 3/4 times a night when we spent the night together) then it started becoming less and less until - now, we spend 3 nights a week together and maybe have sex once and that's only if I initiate it and then its boring and uniform.

I propose these suggestions as to why ...

1) He's bored of me / doesn't find me that attractive
2) We spend too much time together too soon into the relationship
3) He's having "wobbles" about the relationship.

What do you reckon? looking for men's views but women welcome too if you think you have the answer!!

hellsbells76 Tue 20-Nov-12 17:00:12

Can't you ask him?

CordeliaChase Tue 20-Nov-12 17:01:31

Why not try spicing things up? Surprise him with an outfit or some toys. grinwink

thirdfromleft Tue 20-Nov-12 20:36:58

How does the relationship seem outside of the bedroom?

Does he still seem interested in what you say?

Does he actively come up with social ideas / plans ?

Peterpan101 Wed 21-Nov-12 07:38:22

There are many issues that 'could be' going on.....and as with any personal online advice that gets given on this site....it might be well wide of the mark!!

But, how old are you guys? Are you 'physical people' to start with? What health are you in? Has he got a high sex drive in general? etc, etc

In general, as men get older their sex drive drops off some what. Passion in new relationships may not last as long as they did when we were in are twenties.....and they may go from passionate new encounter to comfortable long term very quickly??

The best answer will probably come from him.....so talk, or take control!!??

IslandMoose Sat 24-Nov-12 18:06:31

Look, the frequency of the sex thing is not an indicator of how much a man is "into" (stupid phrase) a woman. Do you have a good relationship otherwise? If so, and if the tailing off in sex is bothering you, discuss it with him. If not, move on.

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