waiting to test - why does this time drag so much!!!

[meerkatsandkookaburras]

im not sure any of you will remember me, i posted on here a bit a few months back but stopped as it was getting me down seeing others get positives etc, well im back i need the support im going crazy!!!! weve been trying now for 22 cycles now, maybe 23 i loose count as im so irregular!!, it will be 2 years at beginning of january anyway, this month we have been bding loads, and ive lost a little weight so im ultra hopeful, though in reality know its unlikely as i think i have major problems due to the irregularity, pains and general uselessness of my body!!!! im hating this wait now to test more than any other wait before anyone want to join me in moaning?!

[Alibobster]

Aww Meerkats it's absolutely rubbish waiting isn't it. I'm due on the 17th and this 2ww is murder so I'll join you for a moan. When can you test?

[asianbabe]

Hey Meerkat

I'll join you in the madness. Im also waiting to test my AF was yesterday but no show. So will continue to wait I'm so tempted to test right now but so far have had 3 BFN's. So i will wait.

[meerkatsandkookaburras]

well my cycles vary from 22 days to 44 days so who knows lol i start testing from day 23 until period comes, so get through rather a lot of tests lol so earliest date i will test will be 14th but knowing my cycle could be testing for weeks!! its my ds's birthday on 16th so hoping for good news then took 22 months to concieve him with different partner so think problem is definately mine!! he will be 4 on 16th, i just want to be a mum again and it to be normal being a mum, had so many problems since got pregnant with ds, violent abusive ex to me and ds until i left him when ds was 6 months, then numerous problems with ds who is autistic, loads of other crap, i just want to enjoy motherhood. on day 17 now so still bd'ing just incase am on a long cycle month and so tempted to test in case short cycle month lol but it costs me a fortune and depresses me so i better not start yet!! how long you both been trying?

[QueenMercury]

I'm waiting too and i'm so impatient, i can't stand it!

my af is due in just over a week, when should i start testing?

[nattiecake]

im rather tight, i would say dont test until your period is actually late, regardless of whether you think you're pregnant. some people "know" but a lot of peoples minds play tricks when they're ttc.
so from a money perspective, wait til then

[Jaimy]

I had an MMC in Aug and have been trying since then am so impatient about the 2 week wait! I already did 2 tests last week, First Response early ones, but they were negative, and I am due tomorrow. I can't wait... it is so hard and then I get really depressed when it is negative. Especially as my sis in law fell pregnant right after my MMC, and all my friends have new babies. It is SO hard to see, and I get really upset, each cycle more upset. No one in my family understands, they just think it happened and now its over. I hate it!

[nattiecake]

hugs for jaimey

[WhiteRoses]

Poor you, Meerkat. I think I seem about as irregular as you - I go between 23 and 49 day cycles. So I can totally see where you're coming from in that you don't know whether to test or have sex! I also grew up with an autistic sibling and now work with adults with autism, so can understand how stressful life must be for you in that respect as well.

However, on a positive note, your DS is living proof that you CAN conceive. Maybe you just need to stick at it? And the longer it takes, the older and "better" your DS will become, meaning that when your next DC arrives, you'll all find coping much easier. Every cloud and all that..?

Still, I know it can't be easy. [hug]

[Calyx]

Can I join in? I'm at the far end of 37, he's 42 and we've been ttc (1st time!) for 5 cycles. Came off the pill in May and my June to Sept cycles were 25/26 days. We BD'd for a week solid this month, think I ov'd day 19 and was due AF day 26 but am now on day 33 with no sign.

I'm feeling completely nothing, no sore boobs, no cramps, not even spotting/pink but white creamy. Do I test yet? Am I on a long cycle and not pregnant? Argghhhhhh! I've never done a test before and I'm scared! How long is the wait?

Good luck to everybody and lots of good vibes (for Meerkat and Jaimy - hugs too)

[WhiteRoses]

Calyx, just to say there are a few people over on the "The First Time Frolickers! More stories of TTC#1. All welcome!" thread (in Conception) who are in your shoes, all waiting to test. You might like a look? And although the group may seem big, a lot of people are very new.

Jaimey, I just read your post this morning. [hugs]

[Jaimy]

Thanks WhiteRoses. I wish there was an emotional off switch!

[WhiteRoses]

I know, Jaimy... Well, not really, but I can try and imagine. The only thing is, at least because you WERE pregnant, you know you will be able to get pregnant again. I'm trying to look on the bright side... And no sign of AF, I take it? That's a good sign... Is this your first baby?

[Calyx]

Thanks white, will look again, sorry for posting on wrong thread.

[WhiteRoses]

Calyx,

I didn't mean that you posted on the "wrong" thread! Just thought that one might interest you as well...

[Calyx]

It's cool I was at work on iPhone so was quick replying and meant to say thanks for pointing me to a thread with more folk in my situation! I will have a peek in there when DH stops hogging the pc. Good luck everybody!

[meerkatsandkookaburras]

big hugs jaimey.

hey whiteroses someone else with a dodgy cycles like me woohoo, im glad its not just me thats like should we have sex or test lol at the moment im really stuck with waiting i think though maybe just sex i dunno am sick of worrying when its these end of possible ov dates etc!! i tested today just because i thought i would, really rather a waste as im on day 20 so not going to show unless one of my very short cycles and even then not that sure would show! anyway was negative lols o will wait a few days before testing again i think!! i get through so many tests!!

[meerkatsandkookaburras]

sorry jaimy didnt intend to spell your name wrong im useless today, i blame tiredness had 4hrs sleep last night again!!! joys of an autistic child!!

[WhiteRoses]

Meetkats - have you ever tried the ovulation sticks or temping? I haven't, because I'm under the (potentially wrong) impression that the sticks can only predict ovulation a day or two in advance, whereas to maximise your chance of conception, you're better BDing up to a week beforehand. Also, with the temping, that only works to let you know ovulation has already happened, doesn't it? And I think if I know it's definitely been and gone, I'll be unbearable, whereas guessing, I can always convince myself that I'm not really on the 2WW, as I may not even have ovulated yet... Am I mad?!

Ugh, only 4hrs sleep. [hugs] Does your DS go to playgroup or anything? Will you be able to get your head down for a bit later?

[meerkatsandkookaburras]

hiya, well i did try ov sticks for a while but lost patience as got through so many and some months i swear i never ov'd so i gave up and decided to just base it on dates and the logic that if we bd for long enough over all potential dates will be fine!! temping never considered to be honest as my ds gets up so early and wants me up sraight away so would never remember to take it anyway!!

so stressful isnt it!!

[WhiteRoses]

You know, Meerkats, I don't know how you have the time, let alone the energy to BD! But here's hoping for good results all round, eh?

[meerkatsandkookaburras]

ha ha just make the time i guess, and i am always turd though to be far am used to lac of sleep so its kind of bcome the norm i guess!! when are you going to start testing? i might test sunday i think and then onwards until af comes!!! ds's birthday monday so that would be a fab day to find out im pregnant, though not holding out too much hope!

[WhiteRoses]

Hi Meerkat,

Sorry, I've been busy working over the weekend.

I really don't know when to test... If I was on a short cycle, theoretically I COULD get a positive result on Wednesday. But then if you work out an average and assume that's what this cycle is, there's no point even starting to test till Saturday. It's just ridiculous, being so "all over the place"! If I'm on my shortest cycle, AF would be due on the 23rd Nov. If I'm on my longest, I won't even have started ovulating until the 26th!

What I did before was I only tested on days that I'd be able to go to the doctor's. Might try sticking to that again. That'd mean testing for the first time a week today. Which happens to be the 23rd, by which time AF may already be here! Arrrgh!

So have you started your testing yet? What day are you on now? I'm quite good this month - it's the 16th and I'm on CD16! Easy to remember!

[WhiteRoses]

Oooh! Just realised today's Monday (see what happens when you work all weekend?!)

Happy birthday to your DS!

xxx

[WhiteRoses]

Any news Meerkats?

[WhiteRoses]

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