I have a huge (immediate) family and this year we are trying to limit the spending by making a plan - either a spending limit for everyone or each person nominates a present they want (up to a certain amount) and the rest of the family chip in what they can to buy it. Has anyone managed this? How did work? Tips please for co-operating/making it a success (or not)
I think I'd still get my DH a sneaky little private present on the side.
I agree you definitely need to treat each half of a couple as separate if you are doing secret santa. I was thinking of joint presents where you are still attempting to buy for everyone but trying to keep down the costs of doing so.